DILEMMA - Should I stay or should I go now?!

boxoff

Hey guys,

Just off the phone after a mini row with my boyf of one year.
We have booked a trip away in a few months time. Ourselves and his parents are going on a car ferry for just a few nights away (we get on great! Honestly!)

Anyway he bought me tickets for a huge concert that I am so looking foward to. He has told me that he doesnt want to go to it so Im taking a friend (he had a good reason for it). Thing is we have booked our trip away and the concert is on the day we are going. I suggested I take a flight over after the concert (60e) and he blew his nut saying its ridiculious, wasting money coming over, just don't go on the trip, he even said I dont have that money to be 'throwing away'. I have a very respectable job and am on a decent income.

It ended that I told him that there was no need to get so excited and that I would call him later ad he just said - ok bye....

What to do?? Should I go to both? or just the concert as he said??

LegacyUser

Erm, it really looks like he's being a coward here. If was really that into you, he'd want you to come over after the concert. Booking the concert in the first place seems a bit dodgy to me. It looks like he has a different agenda. I hope I'm wrong.. but that's just my outside perspective.

astra2000

It seems a bit strange that you should miss the trip away for the sake of 60e that you can easily afford. Is there something else going on here, does he want to spend time with his parents on his own? Ask him what the real problem is, it seems a bit premature to make a definite decision now when its so far away. Were you looking forward to the trip?

greenprincess

I would call him today and see if he has calmed down. as far as i can see he has nothing to be angry or annoyed about. he got you the tickets for the concert and he knows you've made a promise to a friend. you have given him a very good compromise by taking a flight late on.

pollypocket10

I've thought about this a little because it seems quite odd. Anyways my thoughts are. I don't think bf is mad that u aren't going, I think it just doesn't make sense for you to do both.

The trip away is maybe 2 - 3 nights I imagine?
The concert means you'll be missing one or even two of those nights. Now when taking a ferry there is prob a big chunk of the trip being taken up by travelling which if i'm right about 1 to 1.5, maybe 2 full days to enjoy the trip.

If you are going to be arriving over late & will need to be picked up at the airport etc this could pretty much mess up any plans for one of those days. If it's a short trip it makes more sense for you to skip it.

PS. I think this is a minor argument, I don't see any evidence to suggest he has other motives for booking the concert on the same day, he's going on a trip with the folks, not a lads weekend to some red light district.

Elbi

Did he buy the ticket after you planned on the holiday? if so didn't he know the dates would clash?

Either way its a bit strange alright, maybe he wants to go alone with his family? or maybe he doesnt want to go at all and by you staying he could stay????

astra2000

Boxoff I just noticed your previos tread re said bfs cockyness none of what you have said paints a nice picture of this guy. Is it a case that now he thinks he is secure in the relationship with you his true colours are starting to show?