Conversation starters for girls, to guys

LegacyUser

Hi all,

Just looking for some advice on conversation starters with guys say on a night out.

I'm crazily shy and at the moment trying to break out of my shell! Finding it hard to know what to say to kick off a conversation.

(I don't think talking about the weather or the economy is gonna cut it obv!!!!!)

Stheno

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Corkblowin

Well i wouldnt walk up & say 'what you think of Fine Gaels economic policy?' as my opening line but it is a legitimate topic for later conversation if you're both interested in it!

To be honest, most guys would be so relieved that a woman has broken the ice that you could say pretty much anything!

Just say hi, I'm xxxxxx, & go from there. Where you from, what you do, the pub you're in, whatevers on telly.....it's up to him to keep the conversation going too!

It's nice to see a girl taking control & going up to people. The first few times your heart will be in your mouth, but it does get easier.

Good luck!

LegacyUser

Corkblowin wrote: »

Well i wouldnt walk up & say 'what you think of Fine Gaels economic policy?' as my opening line

Haha! Yeah I can imagine the response I'd get.

I'm very in a life is what you make it vibe this year and determined to make things happen for myself. Usually when I go out I stick to my group of friends purely cos we have good times, and if a guy starts talking to me I dont often entertain it, nothing to do with him, just prefer to be having a laugh with my own crowd!!

However I've decided it's time to meet new people. But I'm very shy and finding it hard to do. I'm petrified of the "who do you think you are talking to me" look which I haven't gotten yet but I'm sure I will. I'm only average looking and often feel that pubs and clubs are like a competition I wouldn't be winning, but I'm gonna take the plunge anyway. Sure I'll pack it in if it's going nowhere anyway.

I might report back here on the good and the bad experiences!! In the meantime though I'm just looking for general ideas on approaching guys, I don't think I'd brave actually lunging into a group, but I can handle strategically positioning myself where I can get some chat in without interrupting a group! (I've given this considerable thought!! )

LegacyUser

Also, I'm not gonna bat out of my league or anything. I'm kind of assuming / hoping that 1 in 10 times anyway the conversation might develop!!

Drodan

Hold on your a girl looking to start conversation with guys? You have boobs, you don't need a conversation starter, especially if your late teens early 20s.

Corkblowin

Conversationist not wrote: »

Also, I'm not gonna bat out of my league or anything!

Don't think like that either!! I hate that phrase and really its a all a fallacy - one mans average is anothers hot babe - I'm sure the same goes for women. If you act like you're grateful that they've 'lowered' themselves to talk to you its not a good start at all! Be confident in yourself that you're an interesting person and speak to everyone as equals. No more leagues crap!

Talk to everyone, those you would not normally - even if it doesn't go anywhere its all building up your confidence to talk to new people, and you never know who you could click with.

Squiggler

I agree with corkblowin.

"Hello, my name is xxx" said with a smile is enough of a conversation starter (for either sex). After that the ball is in the other person's court.

LegacyUser

Squiggler wrote: »

I agree with corkblowin.

"Hello, my name is xxx" said with a smile is enough of a conversation starter (for either sex). After that the ball is in the other person's court.

Yeah but that's a bit too obvious of a "I want to talk to you" conversation starter for me. Id be fearful of the "so what?" response!!

Squiggler

Well, he could say that no matter what you say to him. You take that chance when you approach anyone. You are indicating that you are interested in talking to him, if he's not open to that it isn't your problem.

Any guy who can be rude about it isn't worth your time.

LegacyUser

Squiggler wrote: »

Well, he could say that no matter what you say to him. You take that chance when you approach anyone. You are indicating that you are interested in talking to him, if he's not open to that it isn't your problem.

Any guy who can be rude about it isn't worth your time.

Yeah you're right! This whole making an effort thing really is a lot of effort!

Ickle Magoo

Drodan,

Making crass statements about the OP's body does not constitute constructive advice on the issue she posted on.

If you haven't already done so, please take the time to read the forum rules in the charter.

Many thanks.
Ickle

Squiggler

Conversationist not wrote: »

Yeah you're right! This whole making an effort thing really is a lot of effort!

Yes, it is, I've been there myself. But, it gets easier. The main thing is to talk to lots of people, not just the ones you fancy, actually, maybe start with the ones you don't. That way you will feel less pressured and you can get lots of practice, and you might meet some really lovely people, or even the one

It's worth the effort!

Denerick

Whatever you do, don't pretend to be someone you are not. Some lads will like a shy girl, will feel she is more authentic and not prepared to sell her soul in that disgusting modern cattle mart (Your average dublin niteclub)

lordgoat

I always just go for.

Hey, i'm lordgoat (well my more boring RL name). So how's you're day/night going?

Being honest i think it's really attractive when a girl comes up and starts talking to me.

scientific1982

Just come up and say hi. In a woman, confidence is sexy. But then again so is shyness.