How do I get my mojo back?

LegacyUser

I don't even know how to describe this.... but lately I find myself feeling removed in certain situations. For example, on nights out I don't fully enjoy myself. I feel like people around me are having a better time than I am. I'm enjoying myself but just don't feel like into it as much as they are if that makes sense? Or another example, at home with my housemates say watching the tv. I don't feel like i'm quite there & like i've nothing to contribute. People are coming out with witty comments & are funny in general & I just have no reply whereas usually this would be me in my comfort zone & I'd really enjoy the banter.

I feel like an observer, instead of a part taker... How do I get my mojo back?

AnonoBoy

That's a tough one to answer.

Has anything changed in your life recently? Job? girlfriend/boyfriend? Family life?

You could be on edge about something without realising it fully.

Of course the opposite might be true. Nothing might have changed recently and you're getting into a rut and becoming bored with things.

Maybe try something new. A new hobby? Seek out some new friends - not saying drop your old ones but try and widen your social circle maybe.

LegacyUser

Thanks for your response Anonoboy. Thinking about it I suppose my life is fairly different to how it was say this time last year.
I've moved house and although I do get on well with my new housemates, I wouldn't classify them as good friends like I would have done with my old housemates.

Things have also changed a fair bit in work. A lot of people I would have got on really well with have now left and a few new people have joined. Although they're all lovely people, I don't enjoy work as much as I used to. It used to be fun, now I feel out of the loop. I feel like I’m becoming withdrawn and a shell of my former self. I'm also under a fair amount of pressure with a major project due in a few months time but I’m not convinced that’s what’s wrong.

My friends are all great but even with them I've found myself feeling more distant and mojoless. Most of them are now in long-term relationships and although I still see them, I feel like they're moving on while I'm stuck in the same old rut of nothingness. Recently found out that a close friend is pregnant which has completely thrown me.

I don't have a boyfriend and this is probably another thing that's making me feel on edge. It's one area of my life that has always been lacking and I've never fully understood why. I met someone last year, the only guy I've ever really been mad about, but he ended things suddenly after only a few months. I was devastated and while it was over 6 months ago I still think about it a lot. Some days I feel like I'm moving on & starting to get the hell over it, then other days I'm back to square one. Even though I understand his reasons I can't fully accept that this had to happen, other people have no problems finding and maintaining relationships so why should I be any different?!
While I would like to meet someone new, the thoughts of the same thing happening again terrifes me, I can’t bear the thought of going through that again. Also, other people seem to get over broken relationships all the time, so I sometimes feel like some kind of freak that I just can't let this one go.

Sorry, I have waffled on for way longer than I expected:) Widening my social circle would probably be a good idea but with work being a bit crazy at the moment it really doesn't feel like there's enough hours in the day to take up new hobbies. I probably come across as a miserable git, I'm not miserable all the time but I go through bad phases more & more frequently.. I know I have a lot of things to be grateful for and I should be more positive but lately it just seems harder & harder to do & I'm withdrawing from everyone around me, watching the world pass me by.
Not sure what help writing this here will be but at least it's been fairly therapeutic writing it down:)