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how to get talking to the opposite sex on a night out?

  • 26-01-2011 11:34pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I'm 17, nearly 18 and I'm painfully shy. I'm in college and there's a few nights out, the usual stuff. My problem is - I would love to know how to get talking to the opposite sex without them being haughty or having a 'fúck off you annoying girl attitude'. Maybe it's the guys I go for but I've never been chatting to a nice guy that I have hit it off with (well not off my own bat anyway) The ones I'm into just don't want to know (and believe me I like a lot of people)

    I usually give off a cold vibe and I would rather die than let someone know I'm into them. A lot of the girls on my course are drop dead gorgeous and I feel like a right loser standing next to them. How do you guys pull or let someone know you're interested? what do Irish guys like? and how do you know if they're interested? I've looked this up online countless times before but I'm interested in an Irish point of view.


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  • #2
    honru
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    The cold vibe is a defense mechanism. You are afraid of getting hurt if you act warm towards people you don't know. You fear the rejection if you let people know you are interested.

    I think you need to take the initiative here. Change your vibe from a cold to a warm one, for starters. If you are attracted to someone, have a more flirtatious vibe. You don't need to verbally and explicitly tell someone you like them early on.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
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    I have exactly the same problem. If you are out and see a nice guy, would you have to go up and talk to him, or look at him a couple of times in the hope he comes over? If a girl has to go and talk to a guy she likes, what exactly should she say to him to break the ice etc? A guys view would be helpful with this


  • #4
    honru
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    sameproblem wrote: »
    I have exactly the same problem. If you are out and see a nice guy, would you have to go up and talk to him, or look at him a couple of times in the hope he comes over? If a girl has to go and talk to a guy she likes, what exactly should she say to him to break the ice etc? A guys view would be helpful with this

    You could do both, of course initiating conversation has a greater chance of getting to talk to him. If you want to break the ice, simply smile and say hi.


  • #5
    Stu
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    As you catch a girls eye, smile, pull your top up and rub your nipple. It doesn't matter what nipple you rub, circular clockwise motion and nice and slow while having a stupid gormless look on your face. If the girl smiles your in there my son. Then go over and buzz of her head. :D

    Oh i just realised your a Girl OP !!. In that case i can't help you. I only know what works for men (as above) lol.


  • #6
    IrishEyes19
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    What I found good when I was shyer, was when ordering a drink at the bar, strike up convo with someone beside you, or comment on the q or something, theres always something to say there...


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  • #7
    LegacyUser
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    IrishEyes19 wrote: »
    What I found good when I was shyer, was when ordering a drink at the bar, strike up convo with someone beside you, or comment on the q or something, theres always something to say there...

    Good advice here. Any other advice on if a girl see's a nice guy, to go up and smile, and say hi, but what to say then?


  • #8
    Ickle Magoo
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    Stu infracted.

    Please keep replies on topic and helpful to the OP.

    Be aware that off-topic and unhelpful posting can earn you a ban from this forum.

    Please take the time to read the forum rules in the charter and abide by them.

    Many thanks.
    Ickle


  • #9
    LegacyUser
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    IrishEyes19 wrote: »
    What I found good when I was shyer, was when ordering a drink at the bar, strike up convo with someone beside you, or comment on the q or something, theres always something to say there...

    I have similar queries to the OP but I'm a bit older. This is an approach I was going to try myself, thanks for the advice.

    I'm thinking it's much easier than actually approaching a guy and also theres a good reason to walk away if conversation is not taking off... Ie walking away with your drink. And your pride intact!!


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