First date clothes!

LegacyUser

Meeting a guy for drinks tonight that I met out on Saturday night, got on really well, not sure what I should wear! I wear dresses of one sort or another most of the time, should I wear heels or flats? Don't want to look too try-hard and scare him, but equal don't wanna look like I put no effort in and just wanted to be uber-comfy! also, dress-wise, something slinky or not so much? i'm way overthinking this, I usually trust my fashion sense! help asap!

Stheno

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Pandoras Twist

Flats are a safer bet. The guy isn't going to read into you wearing flats as "well she's clearly not bothered"

I find it better to keep it casual. Coming across as casual is a lot better than coming across as try hard and possibly high maintenance

ratmouse

I'd agree, don't overdress but no need to rule out heels completely though. Say, maybe boots with a heel, nice skinny jeans and top.

Ammsy500

I agree boots, skinny jeans and a nice top not too dressy but not too casual either. I always think its best not to get to dressed up for a first date especially if it doesnt go great nothing worse feeling like you got dressed up for nothing. And knowing Irish guys they always go casual for drinks aswell.

Hope it goes well

ronob

Wear jeans,he'll know he's not getting any.

Phoenix Park

Who says he'd want it on the first date?!. Sexist!.

Sibylla

It's usually best to keep it casual on a first date yet still nice to look like you made an effort. As the other posters have said skinny jeans with boots and a nice dop would be lovely, You said you usually wear dresses, a nice dress with tights and flats would work too. I would keep make up casual too.

Shmatter

ronob wrote: »

Wear jeans,he'll know he's not getting any.

We're not in America, we don't have ridiculous predetermined expectations and rules when it comes to first dates.

Hope your date went well OP

ronob

First dates before second dates is generally considered a rule
Expectations are usually predetermined
And stop picking on America

spinandscribble

Why assume SHE doesn't want any?

Wear something you feel pretty in. If you're going casual put more work into the hair/makeup.

keanooo

helpwithoutfit wrote: »

Meeting a guy for drinks tonight that I met out on Saturday night, got on really well, not sure what I should wear! I wear dresses of one sort or another most of the time, should I wear heels or flats? Don't want to look too try-hard and scare him, but equal don't wanna look like I put no effort in and just wanted to be uber-comfy! also, dress-wise, something slinky or not so much? i'm way overthinking this, I usually trust my fashion sense! help asap!

You must be fairly interested if you're over over-thinking it, so here's my advice:

- Don't dress too "loose" (pace ronob);

- Something dressy, but not over-the-top;

- Proper dating shoes (heels etc., not flats);

- No fake tan and go easy on the make-up (the less the better);

Personally, I find it a turn off if someone is more keen on me than I am on them... and I think that's fairly common amongst men. If you're interested in a relationship, don't invite him back or go back to his (no matter how well the night is going).

Finally, if he has set the date for a Friday or a Saturday night that means he's definitely interested. If it's a Sunday to Thursday it means he's sort of on the fence still (which is no harm this early on) and that he wants to keep his weekend free for other pursuits.

Are we going to get feedback?

Pandoras Twist

keanooo wrote: »

Finally, if he has set the date for a Friday or a Saturday night that means he's definitely interested. If it's a Sunday to Thursday it means he's sort of on the fence still (which is no harm this early on) and that he wants to keep his weekend free for other pursuits.

Are we going to get feedback?

Sorry, but that's ridiculous.

keanooo

Pandoras Twist wrote: »

Sorry, but that's ridiculous.

Agreed, but who are we to judge the inner workings of the single male mind?

P.S. Why are you apologising?

Ammsy500

Hmm very Interesting to see a guys take on first date wardrobe but I most definitley would never go on a first date on a Saturday night well definitley not if its going for drinks. You wouldnt be able to hear a thing there would be a lot of shouting and 'what did you say'

The Cool

Depends on your style really OP. You want to let him see that you made a bit of effort, you dont want him to think you're not bothered. However, don't go too far as you don't want him to think that you're high-maintenance, or that you're scared to let him see the real you.
Forget about the tan and dramatic makeup and overly-done hair. Think dressed-up jeans or a dressed-down dress.
Generally just be yourself!!

odonopenmic

keanooo wrote: »

Finally, if he has set the date for a Friday or a Saturday night that means he's definitely interested. If it's a Sunday to Thursday it means he's sort of on the fence still (which is no harm this early on) and that he wants to keep his weekend free for other pursuits.

+1. My first rule of dating - I'd never agree to a first date with a guy over a weekend. If it goes horrible, you have no excuse to cut things short and get out of there. Might sound ridiculous but honestly, if it was a thing that you met someone after a few jars and agreed to go on a date, I wouldn't bank on it being a success. This is just my insurance It would be a rare find that would get me out on the weekend.

Hope the date went well OP

keanooo

helpwithoutfit, how did the date go? Did you take any of our advice?

Twee.

This thread was moved from PI and the OP posted anon, so they won't be able to reply here unless they sign up! Would be nice to hear how it went though

Tropheus

arthr20 wrote: »

I think cape,leggings and boots or wedges will be perfect.not too casual but fashional.:)

Who's do you think she's dating? Superman?

keanooo

Twee. wrote: »

This thread was moved from PI and the OP posted anon, so they won't be able to reply here unless they sign up! Would be nice to hear how it went though

Just got a PM from helpwithoutfit:

Dear keanooo,

I see a lot of people have been enquiring about how my date went. I wish to remain anonymous, so I would be grateful if you posted this report on my behalf:

Hi All. Even though it was on a Thursday :mad:, the date went really well. I decided to go with a pencil skirt (don't worry ronob, he didn't), heels and I went light on the make-up and of course no fake tan. My date said I looked fantastic, and you could tell he really meant it. I would like to thank keanooo for his sage advice. It worked a treat. Pandora's Twist, thanks for your words of, ahem, "wisdom", but you're obviously completely clueless.

Flats on a first date!? Sorry, but that's ridiculous.