Having trouble moving on (getting strange now)

LegacyUser

Hi everyone I have a huge problem that I just can't get away from and I really think i need counselling or somthing:?

I had a girlfriend who I was mad about (first girlfriend) and she was mad about me and we spent lots of time together ect ect but then all of a sudden she ignored me and just broke up with me.

I was heartbroken and still am really. Anyway the problem is that I just can't let go and I think about her most of the day and I have been thinking about her for weeks now. Thing is she lives across the road from me and well, I have began to do strange things.

Like anytime her car is out I wonder where she is gone, Last night she was out for hours and I just couldnt go to bed until I saw her park her car (I ended up stayed up till 3) and I was looking out my window i'd say every 30 mins to see if she was back yet

The other day she was at her car (changing water and stuff like that) and I just couldnt bring my self to look away from the window. I saw her with another guy the other week and I was going mad wondering who he is and I didnt rest till I found out.....and I was at a 21st and saw her there and I just kept looking over at her and I didnt even enjoy myself cause I knew she was there..




I am just worried for myself, If i'm honest i'd say i'm somekind of a obessive stalker?.


I need advice please.

LegacyUser

That's the thing mate I have been like this now for the last few weeks and it's killing me. I dread the day when she starts up a serious relationship with someone else


As for keeping busy 2 weeks ago I lost my job so I am trying to adjust to doing nothing all day. It really is a horrible pattern.

Piriz

hey dude,
most of us go through this in life, consider this a milestone in yours, you will get over this and it will take time and perhaps longer than you would like but i promise you it'll ease.
when you do reach the other side you will also feel grateful to have overcome the experience as you will have discovered some inner strength (yea that sounds gay i know but its true).
regarding your actions 'looking out the window' etc. its not abnormal at all and you are not turning into a freak but you should concentrate on controlling it.
The best advice i can give you is to continue with your life as though this is less then a mere blip on your radar and you are not phased by it..people (including her) will admire your strength of character and their perception of you will soar.
Also if your not wallowing about her you are more likely to meet someone else!
losing your job is harsh dude i've been there too..get focused on your next step towards your future and you dont need to bring the negitives of your past with you. in a nut shell get active about what you are going to do next & get distracted by things you enjoy, its more important then her..
a session with a counselor could help..



and finally, i am reluctant to say this but couples break up sometimes for a long time and wind up back together..what you need to do tho is be strong, dont contact her, show her, others and yourself that you can be happy on your own..you'll get there, its not beyond you to put this behind you!

good luck!