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27 and i dont know where i am going

  • 14-01-2011 10:30am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Really don't know where to begin. I’m 27 and I think I’m depressed and probably have been to some extent for years. Currently I am unemployed and have been for some time. I don’t have a degree and I was away when the recession came in so I am finding it hard to get work. I generally hate any jobs I have had, I had one that I didn’t hate but didn't exactly love it either. I have tried to teach myself certain skills to help me get a job but I just lose interest. There lies another problem I have, I can’t pay attention long enough to really learn anything. I just about passed my leaving because I couldn't concentrate. I would have considered myself more intelligent than a lot in my class in school but they paid attention and they got the results. I have done a few courses since school and again I have struggled to pay attention, but most of these had a practical element to it and I have a knack of picking things up quick so I have got through these situations. I am thinking now that I need to grow up and get a degree. I am not going to get much work without one. I hear people saying to get a job in something you enjoy. Problem is Man Utd don’t want me at the moment and my lack of guitar playing won’t allow me to become a rock god. I honestly don’t really enjoy much else. I have spent the last few days looking at different options for college but nothing takes my fancy. Maybe IT but then I have the problem of concentrating. It will take 4 years and there will be a lot to learn.

    I don’t really remember ever been happy, well not since I was a kid. I just seem to be floating through life. My gf is working and is really getting on my back because I don’t have a job. I don’t take any money from here or cost her any money. But she thinks because she is working I should be. As I have said I don’t have a degree and any experience I have are in fields that just are not happening right now. Basically I am unskilled labour so there are tens of thousands like me out there. I don’t really have great people skills, especially with new people. I feel this hinders my progress a lot and I think some people think I am an ignorant ****. This really is not the case but I can understand why they think this. I have always been low on confidence even as a kid which is probably where this comes from. I also don’t really care about anything anymore, so when people tell me there problems I don’t care. When I am in work I don’t care about the company. When family tell me about their kids or something they did, I just don’t care. I am wondering is this because I might be depressed that I don’t care about anything anymore. When i am feeling a bit down my gf just says to snap out of it, I don’t feel I get any support from her. We have been together for years but sometimes I think of just ending it. I really don’t think she is helping me right now with her moaning and getting little digs in at me. My self esteem is pretty ****ing low right now. In the last few weeks I have started eating healthier, doing exercise and stopped drinking. I thought I would feel great, I don’t.

    At the moment all this going back to education is really playing on my mind. The thought is scaring me if I am honest. I am especially worried with my poor concentration and the fact that it would be 10 years since I left school. I struggle to pay attention for the length of a film I don’t know how I would last 4 years. Sorry if this is a bit of a rant or whatever.


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  • #2
    SparkyTech
    Closed Accounts Posts: 590 ✭✭✭SparkyTech


    If you are able and eligible to get a back to education allowance/college place, take it! Regardless of what the course/degree/qualification is, any piece of paper or experience/skillet gives you an advantage over others who don't. Most places have support systems in place for mature students to help you out. Not saying that education should define who you are as a person, but in this climate its a definite advantage.

    Do you have any hobbys/go to the gym/long walk etc...to keep your mind off things? Even if you are unemployed you need to keep yourelf busy and active to keep your spirits up and lift some apathy. Everyone deserves to be happy.

    As for your mood/low confidence, have you seen a professional to talk it through? It may help you clear your head and work some stuff out.

    Best of luck


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