i just dunno anymore

LegacyUser

In the space of 6months my life has turned upside down, I have someone try to ruin my life on purpose (spreading a rumr that was in no way true)and succeed to the extent I lost someone I considered a great friend. I'm now 23 unemployed and have such bad anxiety and depression I can not leave my house and almost cant leave my bedroom only for essentials. I have been on ant depressants and seeing a physiologist since October but if anything I have gotten worst..I used to be life and sole of any social situation now my day revolves around taking Lexapro to even get the courage to walk down the stairs.. on painkillers for an injury and taking sleeping pills at night and sometime some xanax inbetween. i just do not know what to do and cant believe that someone would do this to me and be able to live there lives with out having to go through the hell i do every day. I supposr what I'm looking for is some inspiration that people get through this and all will be ok.

r3nu4l

Firstly, you are not alone! Read this thread.

Secondly the fact that you are seeking professional help is good. If your counsellor isn't someone you can be completely open with then you need a new counsellor. It's only when you truly open up that you can set yourself free.

Thirdly, a load of people have written books about their experiences with depression, the good news about that is that writing a book means that they got past their depression If they can do it then you can too.

Gareth O'Callaghan (2FM DJ) wrote a book about his experience and this guy took a different approach and expressed his story through cartoon drawings.

The important thing is that you keep talking to people, no matter how tough it is. I don't know whether you've tried cognitive behavioural therapy or not but ask your counsellor about it. It's right for some people but not for others, depends on your background and medical history. Some people's depression is brought on by other mental health issues, for others it's a matter of how they think about things (The old 'glass is half full or half empty' thing).

Either way, keep talking to people, accept that right now you just aren't yourself. It may seem ridiculous but every time you leave your bedroom you've scored a victory over your depression . Every time you leave the house you've won a batttle! Everytime you do something 'normal', you're winning a part of the war on your depression. Just keep plugging away at it and eventually, with the right help and medication you can defeat it. Depression is an illness, it might be chronic (i.e. it might take a long time to clear) but you can get rid of it.

Good luck

LegacyUser

Move somewhere where nobody knows about the rumour.

If it's published then you might need to take more extreme steps to get away from it. There is little privacy in the 'Information Age'. But even in all but the worst cases, you can put enough distance between yourself and what has been said. The fact you aren't dead or in prison means that you aren't experiencing one of the worst cases tbh.

It is horrible. People can say things that ruin people's lives. People lose their freedom and lose jobs on the back of lies. In your personal life, think of it as a filtering process. You lost someone you miss because of the rumour, but tbh they weren't that good a friend - If they were, they would have believed your side, not coondemned you because of what someone said.

It is a really lousy part of human nature to believe the most dramatic thing that is said, unfortunately. It's in no way fair, and there isn't really an upside to it when this happens to you. All you can do is move on from it. You dont sound like you're in a great place emotionally for trying to make a new start, but you might be surprised how much better you feel if you do address this.

It's a horrible, sickening, exchausting thing to experience, and you have my sympathy.

scentedcandle

TalkingPooPoo wrote: »

Move somewhere where nobody knows about the rumour.

If it's published then you might need to take more extreme steps to get away from it. There is little privacy in the 'Information Age'. But even in all but the worst cases, you can put enough distance between yourself and what has been said. The fact you aren't dead or in prison means that you aren't experiencing one of the worst cases tbh.

It is horrible. People can say things that ruin people's lives. People lose their freedom and lose jobs on the back of lies. In your personal life, think of it as a filtering process. You lost someone you miss because of the rumour, but tbh they weren't that good a friend - If they were, they would have believed your side, not coondemned you because of what someone said.

It is a really lousy part of human nature to believe the most dramatic thing that is said, unfortunately. It's in no way fair, and there isn't really an upside to it when this happens to you. All you can do is move on from it. You dont sound like you're in a great place emotionally for trying to make a new start, but you might be surprised how much better you feel if you do address this.

It's a horrible, sickening, exchausting thing to experience, and you have my sympathy.

Your words I could not have said better myself. I myself have had an experience where a rumour has I believe one million percent lost me my job, as it was a very envious job and the person went to great lenghts to find out where it was and it got back to me that the person had been enquiring about where I was lately. An extrememly dangerous and jealous man who hates me because I didn't date him. That's all it takes and you can be ruined. But recovery and success is the greatest revenge. As is karma.

Your advice is excellent. You seem to really understand a situation like this. I am saving your post forever

To the OP - I hope that by posting here you will see that there are people out there who DO and WILL care. I have and still continue to battle depression on an everyday basis and if I've learnt nothing else it's that YOU MUST NOT ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE LIKE THIS FOR MUCH LONGER. Ok depression will wave and wane, but get into a rut, deep into one, and you will reach a point of distant return before you know it. Your mind will become disabled. And then your body will follow. GET OUT OF IT NOW FAST AS YOU CAN. Start small, can you get to a gym and work out your hurt? You will feel so much stronger, first in body then in mind. Push yourself to the limits. Be like they are in the movies! Be cool! And everyone admires strong independent people, the good ones will flock eventually when you are strict on your personal goals, might sound silly but when you have an interest, people will think 'it's 7pm, X is probably at the gym/night class right now' and suddenly you become slightly unnatainable and therefore much more interesting/hard to get!
Develop whatever interests you and people will love and admire you for it.

As for these tablets you are on - how interested is your Doctor?
I know of one who has people queuing down the street just for the money. Another Doctor at the same practice takes on very few patients at all,
but he cares genuinely about people and spends good time helping them.
He won't throw out tablets just cos you say you need them. Think about that for a minute...And the combination of these are in my honest opinion too strong for you, I mean Xanax (SERIOUSLY? There was uproar about that being prescribed a couple of years ago!) AND sleeping pills???
I was on Lexapro for a few days and they exhausted me. I was a zombie.
You can't live life like that. You are taking something that SLOWS YOU DOWN when what you need is ENERGY! Vitamins and minerals and protein! And a liquid tonic like Phosfer.

I'm guessing you're male and you live at home? Like I said, do something cool, like computers. Learn all about something you at the moment have only a passing interest in. Do some evening classes, you'll only have to meet people once/twice a week if you can't face full-time.
You don't say much about your circumstances but I'm sure someone in your family is hurting a lot to see you lock youself away in your room (I did that myself) and would love to see you well. Even if you have a dog or a cat - THEY want you better for their own sake! Dogs especially are the best thing in the whole world! They are beautiful creatures and we should try to be more like them! I think anybody who dislikes them (apart from those with extreme fear) are people not to be trusted.
I unfortuneatley know of some nasty individuals who got rid of their fashion accessoriesdogs and it's they who should be put down.

Please post some more info about how you're feeling and give some feedback on our replies!