Question for the girls...regarding follically challenged guys!

treakle

I'm a 27 year old male.....and have been told that I'm a good lookin' guy.
Not boasting but I have no problem pulling a girl on a night out or anything.
I'm currently becoming more and more follically challenged as time goes on

I have no problem with this and I'm actually quite comfortable with the fact that I will continue to lose more of my hair into the future. My father and brothers are the same so it's inevitable really....I guess I've accepted it!

My questions are:
Does this really matter to women?
If there were 2 'equally' good looking guys in a bar...one had hair...one had shaved/receding/balding head which one would you go for?

ps. please don't give the old 'its whats inside'...or 'personality' that counts.
I'm aware that personality is a massive part of finding a suitable partner but there has to be a physical attraction first and foremost when you see someone you like...right....I guess that is why I'm asking the question.

AnonoBoy

I've been losing my hair for quite some time.

Hasn't seemed to make any difference with my success with women at all.

LegacyUser

Personally speaking I like hair, but that's because I go for youthful looking guys. It's just a personal preference.

But it shouldn't matter to you anyway because you said you are comfortable with your hairline.

LegacyUser

2 guys in a bar, I wouldn't give hairline a glance.
It's eyes and teeth that win me over!

LegacyUser

treakle wrote: »

I'm a 27 year old male.....and have been told that I'm a good lookin' guy.
Not boasting but I have no problem pulling a girl on a night out or anything.
I'm currently becoming more and more follically challenged as time goes on

I have no problem with this and I'm actually quite comfortable with the fact that I will continue to lose more of my hair into the future. My father and brothers are the same so it's inevitable really....I guess I've accepted it!

My questions are:
Does this really matter to women?
If there were 2 'equally' good looking guys in a bar...one had hair...one had shaved/receding/balding head which one would you go for?

ps. please don't give the old 'its whats inside'...or 'personality' that counts.
I'm aware that personality is a massive part of finding a suitable partner but there has to be a physical attraction first and foremost when you see someone you like...right....I guess that is why I'm asking the question.

Good for you that this this isnt an issue, too many guys worry needlessly! In all seriousness, hair is the least of my worries and i actually think balding guys are cute..

As for shaved/receding/balding choice, it wouldnt be a factor, i rate looks,personality, physique before hair...and thats not me giving you the 'whats inside' counts...yes physical attraction counts- but hair or lack of it, is simply not an factor or defining point for me. Case in point, someone i fancied before is developing a bald patch now- this in no way makes him any way less attractive, in fact i think its quite endearing!

Im reasonably confident in my own looks and i would never say i had a preference for guys who had a full head of hair! Baldness can makes guys look more distinguished.

LeixlipRed

Going the same way myself at the moment, just turned 26. Once you embrace it like I do, keep it as short as possible for example, I can't see it being an issue. I won't pretend I believe all women are attracted to bald or balding men but who doesn't have a receeding hairline these days? You're hardly a freak so stay confident and you'll be grand.

Michellenman

Depends how you wear it. Keep it short and shaved and it looks good and it wouldn't bother me. Growing your hair long and fashioning it in to some sort of comb over and it wouldn't be so hot.

I'd very rarely notice someone's hair line unless if was pointed out to me.

With regards to question of two guys at a bar one and which would I choose, hair does not come in to the equation whatsoever.

Fittle

You should do a poll here Op.

Personally speaking, I never see hair - and am actually more attracted to bald men! From the time I first started noticing men, it has always been bald men that I preferred. Perhaps because my dad was bald, and most of my brothers from early 20s too...I dunno.

Agree with the others though - keep it short and tight - if it's going, embrace it rather than try to cover up. Nothing worse than men trying to hide the fact that they're losing their hair, when it's blatantly obvious they are (Prince William for example:rolleyes:).

Delighted it doesn't bother you either OP - another pet hate of men are men who obsess over it...not attractive at all!

mercer

i'm a girl and i LOVE love love a receding hairline or bald men.. don't know what it is, i just find it hot.
so given the choice i would pick the guy with receding hairline over the other guy for sure.


i think it makes men look extra manly. if you're not worried about it than there's no reason to worry girls won't like it because I like it, and know other girls who like it too.

hope this puts your mind at rest

xx

littlefriend

Michellenman wrote: »

Depends how you wear it. Keep it short and shaved and it looks good and it wouldn't bother me. Growing your hair long and fashioning it in to some sort of comb over and it wouldn't be so hot.

I'd very rarely notice someone's hair line unless if was pointed out to me.

With regards to question of two guys at a bar one and which would I choose, hair does not come in to the equation whatsoever.

Totally agree with all of that.

andreac

I much prefer a guy with a bald or shaved head, but thats the type of guy i go for. Im not into guys with long hair in any way, the shorter or less of it the better!!:D

Sanjuro

Actually, this is something that has been worrying me for a while. Glad to see I'm not the only one. I started losing my hair at about 23-24. So I gave up and just shaved it all off. Keep it shorn now. I've been trying online dating and got almost no success. Even to the point where one girl told me I'm great and all, but the hair thing is an issue. Didn't help matters! So I'm glad to hear that I'm not the only one, and that it isn't an issue for a lot of girls. Thanks!

CBFi

I don't think losing your hair will be a factor for most women given that it's so common. Some women do like a full head of hair but there are (as you can see in this thread) loads of women who will fancy you.

That said, I would keep it all shaved off. I love guys with no hair. way better than keeping some hair and it being really obvious!

Partizan

I'm bald myself after the receeding process took off in my mid 20s. I cut my hair twice a month with a 0.5 blade and it looks good when it is done. I go to a gym and I'm knocking off the excess. It is only in the last 2 years that I started shaving it. My hair or what was left of it had gone to a stage that it had become futile to keep any of it. I was not intending on going down the Bobby Charlton route so I finally summed up the courage and off it came.

Anyway I have just come out of a breakup in which I was the injured party and from what I hear amoung lady friends in my social circle, they do not mind the follically challenged.

Ladies, watch out :pac:

treakle

Hi everyone OP here...thanks for all the replys.

A few of my male friends are the same way or even worse and I know deep down that it is killin' them...affecting their confidence etc. when it comes to chatting to women on nights out.

Although most men will act all macho and pretend that they don't care...for most men deep down it is a very sensitive issue.
So, it does the heart good to know that the majority of women replys don't think this is a deal breaker :cool:

Some of the replys from the women do tally with conversations I've had about this issue with female friends...in that approximately 80% would think that it isn't an issue...I know my way around maths and I know that that is one hell of a statistic in favour of us follically challenged ones

Although I know that you will get the odd beeeeatch that will point blank ignore you because you're going bald...it is refreshing to know that there are so many cool women out there that don't think this is an issue...

I guess because we live in such a materialistic world and the media portray the 'perfect' man as a cross between George Clooney and Brad Pitt, that this is part of the reason for it being an issue with guys...
Aslso you have this 'sex and the city' mentality amongst some women who have this 100 page tick list that their 'perfect' guy must aspire too...

I think after today that we can agree that the perfect man is a cross between Bruce Willis and Jason Statham...boom boom

MiniSquish

Personally it doesn't bother me. I'm 22 and one of my friends who is 23 is losing his hair. What makes it an issue though is that he continues to gel it making it look worse in my eyes. If my boyfriend started losing his hbair it wouldnt bother me.

Distorted

I just think its down to personal preference. You can criticise some women for being shallow for not being attracted to bald or balding men, but its unfair to dictate what a person should or should not find attractive. Yes, you can say its the personality thats more important but there has to be some physical attraction too. Just as men generally prefer women that they find attractive.

My personal preference is for a full head of hair. I have never been attracted to a bald or balding man. It would be different if someone I was already with went bald of course. I think its more associated with overrall appearance though. i.e. for some reason a lot of the balding men I see here are also a bit overweight, with unhealthy looking skin, the overall effect of which I find quite off-outting. Also, it is quite ageing, and since I look very young for my age, I generally get younger guys asking me out, and you kind of get used to that.

I guess if I were a bald man, I would concentrate on my strengths, not my weaknesses. i.e. my personality, being slim, fit and healthy, having an interesting career, etc., and I wouldn't try to compete with say the young students in the bar but try and meet women through less looks oriented places, where you can get to know them a little more first. e.g. sports, hobbies, etc..

LegacyUser

Yep, it'll defintely make a difference. Bald men who can carry it well (or even look better) tend to be very good looking anyway - if not, then it certainly makes a difference. I wouldn't imagine you will get so many replies saying that because women who are just not that pushed on bald guys, will probably have no inkling to post saying 'i would pick the guy with hair, all else being equal' because its just not such an important thing to say. While, if you are girl who is attracted to bald guys - then you will be most likely to reply as its something they are positive about and have a 'thing' for. If you don't have a 'thing', you won't bother posting - and so you will probably not get a balanced overview.

I'm bald, and lost my hair quite young. Since losing it (and i have my head shaved now etc) i haven't get any interest from women. I don't try now or seldomly at least. It can be tough on the confidence espcially if , like me, you are one of the guys that lost his hair at a young age.

I_am_LOST

You know, it may seem strange, but a guy with no hair is absolutely no problem to me at all. Thats not to say that looks arent important. IMO if you're a decent looking lad, and you've got a good personality, women wont give a toss if you're bald. I know I wouldnt

lrushe

Hair was always the number one thing that attacted me to a guy, I love(d) nicely cut / styled (short) hair but ironically I have ended up with a guy who shaves his head bald
I think it is a confidence thing, if you carry yourself with confidence no one will care or notice your hair or lack there of

LegacyUser

treakle wrote: »

Although I know that you will get the odd beeeeatch that will point blank ignore you because you're going bald...it is refreshing to know that there are so many cool women out there that don't think this is an issue...

A woman isn't a bitch because she doesn't find you attractive. What an arrogant thing to say! Bald/Full head of hair is a personal preference in the same way some people won't date someone overweight or someone who's much shorter/taller than them.

I sometimes wear glasses and am very slim and I'm sure some men will ignore me because of these things but it's because they are not attracted to these things not because they're bitches.

Zipppy

Now in my mid 40s, started going bald at about 20...started shaving it about 10 years ago - I love it:D

And let me confirm it has NO ill effect on your 'lady pulling power' :rolleyes:

Lots of girls love it.

As some of the other posters have said it's all bout confidence.

What girls really seek is confidence (not big headed mind) in a guy, love yourself first - all else will follow !!

Best of luck !!

Kingpin187

its all psycological

If you cant truly accept that you are losing your hair and get on with it, its true that you may not have much "luck" with the ladies.. but its nothing to do with your hair or lack thereof, its the confidence loss that comes with it

I started losing mine early on, 20 or thereabouts.. after the initial year or so of the usual "bald" jokes and comments that you'll get from friends etc, it was shaved and that was that. Doesnt bother me in the slightest. I love it when its time to shave my head, always feel FRESH when its done

Never had a problem. Infact my OH right now loves it when my head is freshly shaved/shaven?



on a plus side, id like to know how much Ive saved by not going to the barbers since I was 20

Darthhoob

Sanjuro wrote: »

Actually, this is something that has been worrying me for a while. Glad to see I'm not the only one. I started losing my hair at about 23-24. So I gave up and just shaved it all off. Keep it shorn now. I've been trying online dating and got almost no success. Even to the point where one girl told me I'm great and all, but the hair thing is an issue. Didn't help matters! So I'm glad to hear that I'm not the only one, and that it isn't an issue for a lot of girls. Thanks!

well, tbh that says more about her than you...think of it as a good way to cut the wheat from the chaff

OP as a woman i quite like receeding/bald men, my Oh started losing his hair (and going grey) in his late twenties...i met him when he was 31 (and i was 21). i think it looks...well...handsome. they say a man who goes bald earlier is more virile...mabe that's why? i cant say for sure i just know i like it lol.

he does keep it short though! generally...last year (he's 38 now and lost quite a bit of hair on top and at the front) he did decide he was going to grow it long one last time...and, well he did look silly tbh lol! Bill Bailey may pull it off (for me) but he didn't really. he's quite grey too though and fluffy when it's long...so was a bit 'mad scientist'

Sanjuro

Darthhoob wrote: »

he does keep it short though! generally...last year (he's 38 now and lost quite a bit of hair on top and at the front) he did decide he was going to grow it long one last time...and, well he did look silly tbh lol! Bill Bailey may pull it off (for me) but he didn't really. he's quite grey too though and fluffy when it's long...so was a bit 'mad scientist'

Hahaha! I considered going for the Bailey myself, just to see what it'd look like. I think I've reconsiddered now!

Darthhoob

Sanjuro wrote: »

Hahaha! I considered going for the Bailey myself, just to see what it'd look like. I think I've reconsiddered now!

you never know it might just suit you lol. but when you get mistaken for Christopher Lloyd you might wanna try something else

dory

difference wrote: »

I'm bald, and lost my hair quite young. Since losing it (and i have my head shaved now etc) i haven't get any interest from women. I don't try now or seldomly at least. It can be tough on the confidence espcially if , like me, you are one of the guys that lost his hair at a young age.

I'd say it's your lack of confidence putting women off to be honest.

OP, the exact same could be asked of you; would you date a small/large chested woman? I'd say about the same statistic of 80% could be used in that category also. Personally, I don't care about hair but am big on teeth. We all have our things that matter. You'll have no problem finding someone who doesn't care about hairlines - just be confident!

pow wow

If I was putting together my ideal guy he'd have hair but it's not really a dealbreaker. I doubt it is for many women tbh.

annapolska

Doesn't bother me a bit if he's "follically challenged"! Embrace it.



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weecaoimhin

First Post, so 'Hi'.

I'm in a similar position to the original poster. I turned 28 and been receding since about 23-24. At first I could just grow my hair a bit longer at the front and it was fine but as time went on it's now thinning as well and last year I seen myself under a really bright light and was quite shocked to see how thin it actually was.I have no idea how I didn't notice it before or maybe I was slightly in denial.

It dunted me a bit to say the least. I even looked at wigs for a few weeks! Fair say was depressed. I was wearing hats 24-7 for a few months and even indoors which looks odd, avoiding places where I would be asked to take my cap off etc.. then after about 2 months I thought 'this is no way to live! and decided to cut it short and keep it trimmed.
I have quite big ears, along with pale skin, dark hair and blue eyes and when you seen handsome bald men they are usually like Vin Diesel or a big tanned and don't have big ears! Was wondering about being called a Nazi more than anything.
Most People have said I suit it and had a couple of Girls I went to School with say I look Good , I haven't changed just maybe I am more confident because I've embraced it?

Saying all that, It looks better than having thinning patches and a receding hairline waving about in the winds.

If you met a Women who does not like you because of your hair, you've dodged a bullet really and shows more about her than it does about you. Focus on keeping in shape.

Sorry I'm going on for ages here, but I'll finish up here - as depressing as it can be, it is only hair. Don't let stop it from you doing things. I spent a few months depressed and not doing much at all or hiding behind hats.