Romanian paper seller

LegacyUser

Hi,

Basically there's a really cute romanian girl i pass every day while I'm out on jobs for work, she's not a gypsy or Roma or at least she doesn't look and seem like it. She works for the evening Echo as one of the people that sell the paper on the roads, I've passed her loads and always give a smile and she smiles back she she definitely recognizes me as sometimes she smiles first.

I was planning on next time i see her buying a paper off her while in traffic and handing her my name and number on a page,

What i want to ask is, is this a good idea? I don't even know if she speaks English or even has a phone or even know what she's like.

Zen65

Question1111 wrote: »

What i want to ask is, is this a good idea? I don't even know if she speaks English or even has a phone or even know what she's like.

Then perhaps you should speak to her first, try to chat briefly. If that confirms she can speak english, give her your number another day.

Be at peace,

Z

Jane Eyre

Yeah, try chatting a bit first. Passing her a phone number might seem a bit sinister. You could try asking her if she has any news. If she doesn't get the joke, then you'll know there's a language barrier and you could mime the 'going for a pint?' gesture and take it from there. Good luck.

calex71

Agree , don;t give her the name and number out of the blue. That would be like saying " get into my car I have some sweets little girl"

You definitely need more interaction with the girl before that should happen.

LeixlipRed

Don't really know why you had to mention she wasn't a gypsy or Roma to be honest. And if it turns out she is? Will you still give her your number?

LegacyUser

Zen65 wrote: »

Then perhaps you should speak to her first, try to chat briefly. If that confirms she can speak english, give her your number another day.

Be at peace,

Z

Jane Eyre wrote: »

Yeah, try chatting a bit first. Passing her a phone number might seem a bit sinister. You could try asking her if she has any news. If she doesn't get the joke, then you'll know there's a language barrier and you could mime the 'going for a pint?' gesture and take it from there. Good luck.

calex71 wrote: »

Agree , don;t give her the name and number out of the blue. That would be like saying " get into my car I have some sweets little girl"

You definitely need more interaction with the girl before that should happen.

This would be very hard to do when i can't really stop, im on a main road where she only sells papers when the traffic stops and i could only have 1/2 minutes interaction at most.

LegacyUser

LeixlipRed wrote: »

Don't really know why you had to mention she wasn't a gypsy or Roma to be honest. And if it turns out she is? Will you still give her your number?

Because a lot of Romas/gypsys are dangerous around where i live so thats why i was asking, because it might be wrong to get involved with her and her family, they have a lot of different views of us!

nickcave

+1 on chatting to her first, although her being on the roads doesn't help. Maybe keep working on the rapport until you get a chance to have a sustained conversation with her. The number on a piece of paper is a bit creepy imo.

LeixlipRed wrote: »

Don't really know why you had to mention she wasn't a gypsy or Roma to be honest. And if it turns out she is? Will you still give her your number?

This is a little disingenuous don't you think? I don't agree with the notion, but plenty of people would have reservations about dating a Roma gypsy, for any number of their own reasons.

Peanut2011

As most have already stated in my view handing your name and number to a woman like that be she Irish or not is a bit creepy.

Furthermore, and don't mean to put you down, some of the people doing that job (or any sales job) would smile at most people especially if they catch eye contact cos the more pleasant they are the more likely is that you will buy the paper of them.

It's like going to the shop to buy bread and get a smile from the check out operator. Could mean she is simply just polite.

Partizan

Peanut2011 wrote: »

As most have already stated in my view handing your name and number to a woman like that be she Irish or not is a bit creepy.

Furthermore, and don't mean to put you down, some of the people doing that job (or any sales job) would smile at most people especially if they catch eye contact cos the more pleasant they are the more likely is that you will buy the paper of them.

It's like going to the shop to buy bread and get a smile from the check out operator. Could mean she is simply just polite.

+1

OP, I dont mean to get your hopes dashed but as Peanut said, it is her probably being polite since it is part and parcel of her job. She could be married or have a Marius/Gheorghe sitting at home waitig for her. Strike up a rapport with her but be prepared to be disappointed if she says no. I agree it is difficult to handle this especially when she is on the road and your number on a piece of paper smacks of being a weirdo and a desperado. That said, Romanian women are very upfront and straight to the point. I dated one briefly a few years ago after meetiing her in work. A nice MILF, divorced, mid 30's and savage in the sack.

LegacyUser

Partizan wrote: »

+1

OP, I dont mean to get your hopes dashed but as Peanut said, it is her probably being polite since it is part and parcel of her job. She could be married or have a Marius/Gheorghe sitting at home waitig for her. Strike up a rapport with her but be prepared to be disappointed if she says no. I agree it is difficult to handle this especially when she is on the road and your number on a piece of paper smacks of being a weirdo and a desperado. That said, Romanian women are very upfront and straight to the point. I dated one briefly a few years ago after meetiing her in work. A nice MILF, divorced, mid 30's and savage in the sack.

I don't mean to say that your wrong but i am fairly good looking, i'm sure she wouldn't turn me down. I mean like she's really into me giving me that smile!

LegacyUser

Most of the paper sellers are not romanian, but brazilian. How is your portugese?

Distorted

Question1111 wrote: »

Because a lot of Romas/gypsys are dangerous around where i live so thats why i was asking, because it might be wrong to get involved with her and her family, they have a lot of different views of us!

If you like her that much, why don't you make an effort to walk past her and engage her in a brief chat, and take it from there?

Am I right in thinking you are saying you can't stop because you are driving past her in a car? I think if some car driver threw a piece of paper with his number on it at me, I'd avoid that area again, and I'm not a vulnerable Romanian (or whatever) paper seller!

TheNewMee

Question1111 wrote: »

I don't mean to say that your wrong but i am fairly good looking, i'm sure she wouldn't turn me down. I mean like she's really into me giving me that smile!

I think my reaction to this should be to laugh but it's hard to know. But yes, I'm sure she couldn't possibly turn you down.

Jane Eyre

Question1111 wrote: »

I don't mean to say that your wrong but i am fairly good looking, i'm sure she wouldn't turn me down. I mean like she's really into me giving me that smile!

You're sure?

queenie1981

next time just ask her how she is and how was her day....and smile....
then the next time if u still feel u like her then give her a real friendly "hey" and maybe say something like...hey we have to stop meeting here like this...and suggest maybe lunch somewhere....her preferences and times of course..
but i would say dont give her ur personal details until u know her situation...

u should never let the chance of love pass ya by...life is to short!!!......but be careful to.

Peanut2011

Question1111 wrote: »

I don't mean to say that your wrong but i am fairly good looking, i'm sure she wouldn't turn me down. I mean like she's really into me giving me that smile!

Sorry OP, but if that is your reaction to some constructive comments than my answer would be that you should not be here in the first place.

I do not mean to be insulting, but answer like that to me states only one thing. I guess if you were that sure why ask the question in the first place?

ebixa82

Question1111 wrote: »

I don't mean to say that your wrong but i am fairly good looking, i'm sure she wouldn't turn me down. I mean like she's really into me giving me that smile!

You are obviously a stud OP. You should definitely ask the roma looking paper girl on a date. Imagine how great it would be for her, and think of all the free Evening Echos!

weatherguy

What age are you? Just park nearby and go over and ask her out if you like her that much.
But I would be wary. It is one thing smiling and being polite to someone and another asking them out when you haven't even struck up a conversation with them.
I don't think it will go anywhere. But even if it resolves your curiosity I would ask her out.

partyndbs

just leave your number and an address

Ann22

Fair play to you op saying straight out that you're a good looking chap. Why do Irish people hate to speak well of themselves?
(Compliment)'You're looking great today hey, that's a lovely top you've on.'
(Irish person's reply) 'ah no, I look like shít -I have that top this ages, only €5 in Pennys':o...
(What we should've said...) 'Thank you, I've just had my hair done. I like this top too, it's a nice warm colour'.

Best of luck, hope it all works out well:).

Miss Fluff

Question1111 wrote: »

I don't mean to say that your wrong but i am fairly good looking, i'm sure she wouldn't turn me down. I mean like she's really into me giving me that smile!

I'm pretty good looking too and they always smile at me in the newsagents but I haven't convinced myself its because they all want to go out with me :rolleyes:

Speak to the girl first. Have a few conversations with her. I mean you're assuming she's Romanian, you know nothing about her. She could be married or anything. And personally it's weird and creepy just handing her a piece of paper. Talk to her a few times first and then ASK her if she'd like to meet you for coffee....