Tall female freak

LegacyUser

I know compared to some problems people are facing at the moment this seems very superficial but it's an issue that is really getting me down over the last few months.

I'm a 27 year old female who is 6'2 and feel more and more unfeminine and like a gigantic freak with each passing day. My height never bothered me too much when I was younger and its something I thought I had just accepted a long time ago.

I have been single for pretty much all of my twenties and I've come to the realisation that too most men I am just too tall to be attractive.
I get comments about my height all the time,mainly jokes about the weather and playing for some NBA team. I don't mind these so much but It's started to get me down that I can't get a boyfriend because most men are smaller than me and being beside someone like me seems to demasculate them. My lankiness is just such a major turn off and I just look ridiculous when I catch a reflection of myself beside other normal sized women.

I know that low self esteem and lack of confidence is really unattractive but its really difficult to stand up tall when you feel like a gigantic freak standing beside everyone else. I'm just wondering what is the best way to get confidence in myself again as this is really eating away at me.....or am I a lost cause

mgmt

Don't called yourself a freak.

Nobody would call Jodie Kidd a freak and shes 6ft 2in.

Cheer Up:)

Cheap Thrills!

Hi OP. I am not as tall as you at all, but was one of the tallest in the class growing up, my Mother was also considered tall in her day and despite having a beautiful figure always had a hang up about it. Back in her day men were a lot smaller.

I kind of got the feeling too that tallness was equated with unfemininity. People think this is MAD nowadays. Everyone wants to be tall.

My female cousin who is 6'3 moved to Germany and is totally unremarkable there.

Half of it is attitude. It sounds so corny but you've got to love what you are. I was in AH recently on a thread where girls way taller than me were proud to sport 4 inch heels and their husbands and men commenting on the thread loved their height or at the least indicated it wasn't any problem to them.

Couple that together with the increasing height of people these days, really it's something you need to learn to see as a positive.

I have to say the thread recently from loads of tall girls and smaller guys and girls who were fans of tall women made me realise it's not something worth being negative about.

Anyway, sometimes wish I could take my own advice as well as I give it but please work on not thinking about it negatively. Because most of that is not reality.

Bottle_of_Smoke

Would you be happy to be in a relationship with a guy shorter than you?

Most guys feel girls will only be interested in a guy taller than them. And for the most part they are right.

However most guys will happily go out with a girl a bit taller than them. Most guys these days are 5'11+ so I suggest you start making the first move.

Ickle Magoo

Have you considered trying to meet up with other tall folks so you don't feel like an oddity?

There's the The Tall Persons Club GB & Ireland

My friend is 6"6 and she and her 7" husband love going to their meets and outings.

There are also forums such as;

tallwomen.com

If tall/er friends aren't what you are after then it's a case of being proud of your height and gaining in self-confidence. Shoulders back, chin up and stand tall - if you're bashing yourself and your confidence every time you look in a mirror then stop doing that. Try to look for the things you like and focus on being glad to have them instead.

Best of luck

Pyr0

Is 6'2 really that tall though? It's nothing to be ashamed of at all, sure you may be a bit taller than the average man but if that's a problem to him it's his own insecurity about his height compared to you, not something you should worry about at all.

nickobrien1985

is 6'2 that tall?

My last girlfriend was 6'1, and I'm 6'1.
The advantage with tall girls (generally speaking) is that they're thin.
Fatness is disgusting.

Tall girls to have nice long legs, and you can borrow their t-shirts or PJs.

Sounds the OPs main problem is insecurity. Sorry to say it but thats what it sounds like to me.

Klingon Hamlet

I'm a 6ft 3in and I consider height in a lady a turn-on. You're not a freak, yes you might stand out (pardon the pun) but this is a good thing:)

As for not having had any boyfriends, I think this is due to your own lack of self-confidence and self-esteem. You are probably missing out on the guys who are interested because you're busy making yourself feel like something is wrong. Try those sites mentioned above <snip>

Oroel

tall is fabulous, dramatic, noticeable, unusual, interesting and wonderful.

It is all about how you see yourself, i promise.

Im in college with a very overweight girl, extremely overweight. I let my prejudice get the better of me and presumed that she would be quiet with low confidence and probably shy. (because that's how i would be if i was fat)

Jesus was i wrong, she is the most outspoken, confident girl, a social butterfly, and basically the leader of my class. If i looked like her i would want to hide every single second of every day. But that's because of how I view myself, it has nothing to do with others, and when you realise this, you will see that what you look like has nothing to do with your personality, nor should it.
I am very tall myself, 5.11, and i wear heels because i love them, I wore 5 inch heels today actually, and had to stoop to hug my friend goodbye. So what? it was funny and i knew i looked fabulous!

desolate sun

OP a good female friend of mine is 6'2" and she embraces her height. She has wonderful carriage. She's been out with guys of varying height.
I'm only 5'7" but when I wear heels I would be about 5'9" or 5'10" and I love being that tall. It's empowering.

You should learn to embrace your height. I can't see any negatives to being tall. All the top models are around that height. It's something to be celebrated.

Your problem is really a self esteem issue. If you were confident, the height wouldnt matter.

Katgurl

Tall is beautiful op!!! I come from what I refer to as a family of giants but at a measly 5ft7" didn't get the tall gene. They constantly slag me off and call me the shortarse. Really you should be proud of your height, not looking on it as something todeal with. There is nothing that will turn heads like a tall welldressed goodpostured woman walking into a room. I should know I've been witnessing it for years!

LegacyUser

hi OP

I also feel like you. I am f 5'11. I had no confidence issues initially. But then I was single for seven years in my late twenties- early thirties. I hated photos of me beside my smaller female friends. I felt awkward standing beside them at times..... and like you put it... I just thought I looked 'ridiculous'!

I started doing yoga.......I was so awful at first and felt awkward as always. I am still pretty awful but the teacher made me realise that life is not about appearance. She is tiny, tiny but just exudes positivity and it made me feel so grateful for what I have (as awkward as that is!).

I started that in Jan last year.... not sure weather it's a coincidence or not.....but I stand tall now with pride and people have noticed ....including the man I met 3 months ago who is 6.4!!

I know where you are coming from...believe me....but embrace your height......yoga is not seen as a good sport for tall people, in that we generally are not very flexible and we tend to crunch up and stiffen. But in my limited experience it has helped me open up physically and humbly except my limitations and be grateful for what I have.

CorkMan

You have to accept yourself for what you are....and you are NOT a freak! Or a "giantess" which is your username.

I was always mocked in school, called fatso day in-day out, if I jump in the pool the water jumps out, mr blobby, etc, etc. I was big, not fat but real broad. But when I entered my teens I started to drink a lot of coke. My self-image was highly negative.

I got down to 13.5 stone from 18.5 and started to get real skinny, I thought I was a fat pig in the 18.5 stone photos. But having gained the weight back I realise from this vantage point I looked completely fine, it was how I looked at myself what mattered.

Personally I don't think 6'2 is too tall, far from it. I am 6' myself and wouldn't mind going out with a woman 6'2. I see plenty of men 6'3-6'4 plus around town, there are plenty out there. The thing is if you have a negative view of yourself, in your head/mind, this will show on the outside ie the way you walk, your attitude towards people that you meet. I know when I was low in confidence I didn't walk fully upright and didn't smile an awful lot. I know if you are real happy in yourself that will show to other people.

They are many types of people in life, everyone looks at themselves in their own private way different from public view. Accept that you are a unique human being, only 1 in 6.5 billion, that is how special you are.

Tenzor07

Well OP, this is just a confidence issue for you, you have an elevated sense of self-awareness with regards to your height.. This is no more different than someone who is overweight, or who has a large nose... In that it is somerthing that can be overcome..

As already mentioned, joining a tall club would be a great idea to meet other women your height and taller..

From my own point of view at 5'8, I have dated girls a lot taller than me without issue, and one ex was 6'2 in bare foot, 6'5 in her heels(she was'nt Irish btw).. which i encouraged her to wear, and proudly walked down the street with her..Though there were a lot of stare's because it's not "accepted" that a woman be taller than a man! I do think that a 5ft woman and a 6ft4 man walking down the street looks ridiculous, but would not gather as many if any stares!:rolleyes:

I do find that Irish girls regard themselves as "tall" in heels and judge there height from how tall they are in them! So a 5'6 girl may be almost 5'10 and will not date a guy under 5'10!

Maybe it's the old social "norm's" that say a Man Must be:
a) Taller
b) Richer/better off
c) More educated
d) Protect the "weaker" sex (from wild boar and suchlike)
e) And be the provider while the women raises children

As we all know the above should be and is consigned to the past, however sadly A, D and to a lesser extent B are still very much part of the social norm, hopefully women and men can overcome them..

Doode

Hello Op, firstly you are not a gigantic freak. Being tall in something that you gradually accept and embrace with age and should be quite proud of. The amount of girls that say to me..."I'd love to be tall...you carry clothes so well....you have legs that go on forever..."

Personally, I developed a bit of a complex about my height when I was in my teens. When I was 12 years old I was already 5'11"...always the tallest and the youngest in my class...lol. Funnily enough I didn't grow any taller than that as I got older, but I always felt I was noticed just for being a tall girl...and I was quite lanky too! But as I got through my teens into my twenties I began to realise that this is who I am, and there is nothing I can do to change my height. Thankfully my figure did develop and I suppose in a way for me looking in the mirror, it balanced out my height.

My two brothers are very tall and some days I feel like the shortie in the middle! I have always gone out with guys that were taller than me, as I felt that this made me more confident in myself wearing heels. But then one day a few years back a friend of mine came shoe shopping with me, and I tried on a pair of 4" heels, and my first reaction was that I was far too tall in them...and she just said back..."but you are tall anyway, so what's the difference?". And she was right, and since then I wear my heels and have embraced who I am.

The funny thing is now, my boyfriend is 5'8"...and I don't feel like a really tall girl next to him, irrelevant of what other people see...because I just see myself as me and him as he is.

OP..you are never too tall to be attractive...you just have to open your mind to it.

Emme

OP, I'm jealous! But only in a good way. I'm 5'5" and even at that titchy height find it difficult to meet single guys who are taller than me. Whenever I wear 4" heels forget it - 90% of guys here seem to be smaller than me! Most Irish guys aren't tall (the ones I meet anyway) and I see loads of couples where the girl is taller than the guy. It doesn't seem to bother either party and I've dated smaller guys in the past.

Embrace your height, it's a real gift in my opinion. You don't need a degree in architecture to get dressed - ie clothes look better on taller people. Smaller people like me have to experiment with shape, proportion, colour mix etc. for ages before getting it right.

If finding a guy who's taller is important to you would you consider moving abroad to a country where the average height is taller such as Germany, Netherlands or one of the Scandinavian countries?

To the 6'1" guy who insinuated that small women are more likely to be fat and therefore disgusting, your remark is rude and insulting. Tall people can be fat as well. One of the few tall guys I know (6'3") is fat and doesn't care about it, his excuse is that he's tall and can carry the weight. Yeah right, all 20 stone of it!:rolleyes:

Judes

To the creater of this post Hello you "Amazing Amazonian" - you are not a Giant or Freak!!!

I'm 5'11" - short by comparison - but I'm usually about 6'1"-6'2" in heals and just bought a fab pair of boots that go over my knees and make me closer to 6'3" - and I'm a 46 year old woman!!!

When I was in my teens a nun at my school told me to stand straight and tall (I used to think easy for her to say but I'm getting back ache bending down talking to all my short buddies). But she was right and I did stand straight and tall and still do. So when in my early 20's and going to pubs years ago guys would shout out stupid comments about weather, trees, giants etc. so I became quick and snappy with replies and instead of hiding my height I started buying shoes with higher heels - if they were going to shout out - then I'd give them something to shout about - mind you, I think I intimidated them into a silence then - or they were warned that I was quicker than them with the great "put down".

Be confident - have fun - the only problem I see is clothing and shoes to fit and having to duck in some doorways/buses and under low hanging signs in supermarkets (would Marketing people please hang them higher!!!). When it comes to a "man to fit" my last bf was 6'5" but at 45 years of age, still living with his mother and a restrictive lifestyle - I think I'll be dating below my height in future - HEIGHT DOES NOT MAKE A MAN, I've a good few years on you and it's taken me years to figure that one out.

"Walk tall, walk straight and look the world right in the eye"- OK - sometimes we may have to bend our heads a little to look everyone straight in their eyes - but think about Sophie Dahl and Jamie Calum or Penny Lancaser and Rod Stewart - a lot of my short male friends say they feel proud to walk into a room with a tall woman - because they get noticed too!

People will always see you, blending in the background isn't easy - but why would you want to hide? Think of yourself as a walking canvas - develop your own style and give people something to admire and appreciate. Please don't be ashamed of your height - embrace it! JUDES X

fungun

Im 5 ft 7 and have gone out with a woman 6ft tall, didnt matter to me....and if you had nice eyes and smile id go out with you no matter what height you are. Assuming you have a nice personality of course.....so be careful not to let it get you down so that you end up grumpy or down because of it!!

Also be careful not to project your assumptions of what men think about you onto the men you meet.

Wagon

Tall is good I would't care if i went out with someone taller than me. And im 6ft myself.

I'm 5'9" and many tall women I've met, I have found to be amazingly attractive, certainly not freakish. So us men aren't all out for women shorter than them.

I know it's a sensitive issue for you but I'm sure you'll find someone who loves you for you.

ando

You seriously think tall is freaky??? Common cop on to yourself. I’m 6ft4 and I LOVED it when my ex used to wear 3 or 4 inch hi heels, it would bring her upto my level and I absolutely loved it. She was getting stared at because she was tall and lovely and it grabbed everyone's attention for really good reasons. If you were feeling down in yourself, I can see why you would think of the stares as being bad, but it’s all the frame of your mind. Don’t be so damn hard on yourself, you're just lacking in a bit of confidence

Emme

The title of this post is annoying. A girl is not a freak because she's tall, I'd love to be taller. OP, now you see that guys really love tall girls! Meanwhile small girls like me have to shout louder and try harder to be seen and heard...:( And you have the choice to wear heels or not, small girls have to wear heels all the time to avoid being trodden on and as for getting served at a bar...

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Pluck81

You should not be too bothered about your height. Most men find tall women attractive. If a few are mocking you for your height then they are not worth talking to in the first place. The self confidence is the hardest thing to rectify. I suffer from the same problem myself and am finding it hard to build some. Just embrace your height because at the end of the day you have to be comfortable in your own skin. Believe me I am trying to be comfortable in mine:)

LegacyUser

Op here.Thank you for all the replys so far,they have made me feel better.
I do know I have a low self esteem in myself which really stems from my awkwardness with my height. I am not at all picky when it comes to men's heights and would have no problem dating a smaller fella but I just don't seem to get many offers!
The yoga suggestion does sound interesting.I often feel very rigid,manish and inflexible with all my lanky limbs so maybe that may help loosen me up a bit.

Tenzor07

giantess wrote: »

I am not at all picky when it comes to men's heights and would have no problem dating a smaller fella but I just don't seem to get many offers!

I am quite surprised by that, I would think that tall women are sought after for there long stature and poise?

Build up your confidence Op, there are many men out there who would love to date a tall woman, you are quite rare so stand tall and proud and you will have men fall at your feet

jdivision

Use a dating website? That way guys who like tall women can search for you - one of the free ones like okcupid.com?

Pluck81

Hi Op

As i said in my previous post I am insecure too but about my weight and not my height. I weigh 21 stone and know how you feel. It is horrible when you go out and feel that everyone is staring. I sometimes avoid walking by large groups of people as I am afraid of being laughed at. Do you do the same thing? I also think that men in general are afraid to approach women. It is nothing to do with womens height, weight etc but to do with our own insecurities and our fear of rejection. I am very self conscious and would not in a million years approach a lady for fear of being mocked about my weight. If a woman starts a conversation with me I can talk to her. So my advice to you is if you see a guy you like just talk to him and as I said in my last post , if he takes the mick out of you just walk away with your head held high. Look at it this way, you can either see yourself as a freak (which is nonsense) or as a supermodel. I know which one I would choose if I were you.

!!!

Hey,

My friend is 6'4" and she gets comments all day... she's pretty hot and the majority of the comments are compliments. I think tall girls look amazing. You're lucky you're so tall if you ask me!

Zen65

Cheap Thrills! wrote: »

Half of it is attitude. It sounds so corny but you've got to love what you are.

Corny or not, this really is the heart of the matter. If you can accept that you are fortunate to be as tall as you are, then turn that into a confidence that glows, you will be considered very attractive by others.

6' 1" is tall, but not unusually so. Be sure to walk as upright and relaxed as you can, even wear heels to emphasize your height, and you will appear attractive to both men and women. Your height is not the reason you don't have a boyfriend right now, though a poster here was right when they said that shorter men could be intimidated by a taller woman. That's probably why none of the dwarfs ever tried it on with Snow White, even though she was beautiful.

Your self-confidence is the more pressing issue, and if it is low you may actually demonstrate this in the way you walk & hold your body in company. I agree also that taking up yoga or gymnastics (or a martial art) can help you be more at home in your body.

Op, you have a body that will be a great asset to you throughout your life, so be proud of it.

Be at peace,

Z

MagicMarker

I'm 6'4'' and would say a 6'2'' woman is a definite plus!! Just the thought alone of being able to kiss a woman while standing up straight is a turn on!

Judes

So Zen65 - re. some small men being intimidated by tall women.............. personally I think that Snow-White wasn't so white and was at it with all seven of the dwarves (but that wouldn't sound so good in a fairytale as she had to end up with the Prince).

And Magic Marker would be happy to kiss a tall woman, so he could stand upright whilst kissing her................. my imagination is working overtime here as to how he deals with shorter women - carrying a crate around with him, in case there is a snatched kiss???

Ah well, I'll keep walking tall - and kissing frogs of all shapes and sizes (hoping one of them will turn into my Prince)

LegacyUser

Well, being tall is wonderful as all these posters have said. But I'm not sure that these posters reflect the range of mens' preferences in real life. A lot of men won't date a women taller than them, and tall men can be attracted to petite women too.

But what you need to remember is that it doesn't matter what most men think. You only need to meet ONE man, and he may like you because you're tall - or maybe he'll like you despite being tall. Attraction works in all kinds of wonderful ways. Keep doing the right things. Keep going out, keep an open mind about the men you meet - are you prepared to date shorter? Generally, it's important for very tall girls to stay slim and willowy and dress in a feminine way. I would second the recommendation about yoga.

Also try not to assume that tallness is the reason for your singleness. I know stunning women of all heights who are single. It's tough out there. Tallness narrows the available men, but its only part of the picture.

And - you're only 27, you really do have lots of time. Enjoy this phase of your life.

Craig9119

Hey OP I seen your post and tbh, I'm quite a broad guy in the shoulder area and I often get self conscious about that, cus if I'm wearing the wrong clothes it can make me look fat, but I've had a gf who was quite attracted to my shoulders and it made me feel better about it, and made me realise no one is perfect but it's sometimes the imperfections that make us attractive.

And hey, personally I find tall women to be attractive. chin up someday you'll find a lad who will love your height.