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New gf wants to meet me parents

  • 02-01-2011 10:40pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    My new gf is very eager to meet my parents. We have only been properly together less than a month and I think its way to soon for meeting the parents. The thing is I'm an extremly private person and haven't even told my parents I'm seeing anyone not to mind introduce them! Its a bit akward as I'm living at home (cause I'm only 19 and work part time so have no-where near enough income to move out) so to spend some time together she'll have to be around the house the odd time! She keeps texting saying are you at home, I'll call over and other things like that wanting to come over but I feel its to soon and tbh I'm not comfortable about it yet!
    Any ideas? Should I just do it and get it over with although I don't want to??


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  • #2
    Contessa Raven
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 642 ✭✭✭Contessa Raven


    Talk to your girlfriend. Just explain to her that you aren't comfortable with the idea yet as you are a really private person and haven't told your parents yet.

    Don't make it out like you're hiding her but explain to her that you know your parents will ask loads of questions and you aren't ready to answer them yet.

    Tell her you'll introduce her when you're ready and feel that the time is right. But don't leave it too long. I didn't meet my boyfriends parents for about 4 or 5 months. Because he was a private person and didn't want all the questions. I know couples that are together a couple of years who still haven't met each others parents. IMO that's far too long.

    Don't let her force you into it.


  • #3
    Drodan
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 461 ✭✭Drodan


    Yeah been there mate, trust me.

    I was forced to tell my rents in the end, gf ended up in A&E and I went to be with her. I was the exact same, v private person and exact opposite of my brother who'd bring them home after roughly 4 minutes.

    You gf is being quite pushy tbh, but if you say your private like you are, she might take it as an insult, so I'd be careful how you phrase it.

    Though tbh I know from previous experience, that not wanting to introduce the girl your seeing (or in my case only kinda) to your rents does mean you don't think she'll be around long enough to make it worth the hassle, and afraid of the follow up questions "where did she go", "what went wrong" etc.

    I was dying to spill my guts about my current gf, but was too scared of telling the rents because they'd get all excited n ask questions ****e. If you really like her just go for it.


  • #4
    killerking
    Closed Accounts Posts: 157 ✭✭killerking


    too-soon? wrote: »
    My new gf is very eager to meet my parents. We have only been properly together less than a month and I think its way to soon for meeting the parents. The thing is I'm an extremly private person and haven't even told my parents I'm seeing anyone not to mind introduce them! Its a bit akward as I'm living at home (cause I'm only 19 and work part time so have no-where near enough income to move out) so to spend some time together she'll have to be around the house the odd time! She keeps texting saying are you at home, I'll call over and other things like that wanting to come over but I feel its to soon and tbh I'm not comfortable about it yet!
    Any ideas? Should I just do it and get it over with although I don't want to??

    What's the big deal?
    Your girlfriend could come over for tea and biscuits and a chat. It need only for an hour or two.
    If you break up in a month's time, you can bring your next girlfriend over to meet your parents.
    Just think of it this way - if you are a very private person your parents might be completely in the dark about your sexual orientation and if you can bring home the proof that you are a red blooded male it might ease a load of their mind!:D
    Are you embarrassed that your parents are going to know that you are having sex?
    You live with your parents do are you embarrassed that your parents are having sex in the same house as you?
    So what's the big deal?


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