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I'm not ready for anything...

LegacyUser · 2011-01-02 00:38:08

Hi all, I am the OP of this recent thread: http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2056127526 Well she got back to me eventually soon after Christmas and said she didn't want to hurt my feelings but I'm not ready for anything and didn't want to be leading me on but she really hopes we can be friends. To be honest…

02-01-2011 12:38am

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Hi all, I am the OP of this recent thread:

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2056127526

Well she got back to me eventually soon after Christmas and said she didn't want to hurt my feelings but I'm not ready for anything and didn't want to be leading me on but she really hopes we can be friends. To be honest i'm certain the only reason she got back to me was because i got her friend to tell her my feelings.

Anyway what the hell does "I'm not ready for anything" even mean, or do people here reckon I should just move on and forget about her?

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#2 02-01-2011 2:57am

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Hi OP,

I'm very sorry to say this but this girl isn't interested in you as anything other than a friend.
Her text has laid it out pretty clearly that shes not interested.
I'm really sorry, OP

Wish this girl well and try your best to move on, OP- Go out with friends, watch some films, spend time doing fun stuff- basically look after yourself. Don't go texting her asking what does this mean and what does that mean. You already have your answer so its best to proceed with dignity for your own sake and for the sake of your mutual friends, you don't want things getting awkward.

Just on a side note, I don't think getting your friend to tell her your feelings was the best move- Getting friends to play piggy in the middle is never a good idea. Don't want to make you feel bad about it, maybe just bear that in mind for next time you're in a similar situation. We can always take learnings from relationships that have ended!

Chin up, OP, it will get easier!

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#3 02-01-2011 3:49am

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Welliblewit wrote: »

Hi all, I am the OP of this recent thread:

Anyway what the hell does "I'm not ready for anything" even mean, or do people here reckon I should just move on and forget about her?

you know she is prob a nice person, but not the one for you, my advice would be as you said above. i have had to do the same, i got dumped by text before xmas (not nice) and was hurt and upset but i've just had to accept it and get on with it, it will get easier for you for me and the many other heart broken peeps, we will rise again

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#4 02-01-2011 7:09pm

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Welliblewit wrote: »

.... Anyway what the hell does "I'm not ready for anything" even mean, or do people here reckon I should just move on and forget about her?

'Not ready for anything' means I dont want anything with you. Sorry op.
Yes you should move on and forget about her.

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#5 02-01-2011 9:54pm

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Welliblewit wrote: »

Anyway what the hell does "I'm not ready for anything" even mean, or do people here reckon I should just move on and forget about her?

Translation for "i dont want to go out with you". It would be a lot easier if she would have just said that but hey, guess it was her way of breaking it gently.

Don't bother with her. Plenty more potential out there

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#6 02-01-2011 11:58pm

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Yep. Its no further with this Lady.

Hey, it hurts like hell, I know, but retain your dignity and hold your head up high, and the right woman will come along!

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#7 03-01-2011 4:18pm

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Thanks for replies, to be honest I knew it was over really and to forget about her. I still reckon she fancies me but will wait till next time i meet her out whenever that will be, balls in her court now! Cheers lads, good that people on this forum can give such good advice to strangers.

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#8 03-01-2011 9:47pm

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Hi OP,

I'm glad you seem to coping OK.

Just had to reply when I saw your last post.

I'm sorry to say, but this girl does not still fancy you. If she did, then she would be "ready" for something.

Apologies if I'm coming across as harsh, but I have seen it time and time again where lads are turned down and yet they've managed to convince themselves the girl in question still fancies them. Cue more false hope which eventually gives way to disappointment and/or rejection. The ball is not in her court, it already was, and she told you she was not looking for anything and wanted to be friends. Trust me, as a woman I know this is a line thats trotted out to sugar coat the message of "I'm not interested in you".

You just need to move on and not harbour any hope that she still fancies you.

Sorry if that sounded harsh, OP.

Best of luck

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#9 03-01-2011 10:37pm

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Got to agree with Brown Eyed Girl there OP. I thought myself on seeing your closing post there that you weren't quite getting it. She is definitely letting you down gently. 'I'm not ready for anything' means I don't want to go out with you. Clear as crystal OP ! Sorry.

Welliblewit wrote: »

I still reckon she fancies me but will wait till next time i meet her out whenever that will be

Wait for what? It's over. She was with you once and despite plenty of opportunity she didn't allow it to go further. She might fancy you somewhat but just not the way you fancy her. It doesn't mean anything.

Welliblewit wrote: »

balls in her court now!

There is no more ball OP !!! It's over!!! Leave it!

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