Lonely..

Resi12

Hey guys I'm 19 and as of now I have never had a boyfriend and lately all I can do is feel crap about it. I know not having one isn't the end of the world but for some reason I feel like it is the be all and end all for me to have one.

I do think it's just me thinking there must be something wrong with me to have never had one, I came out like three years ago. Yet I have a friend who only recently came out and he already has a fella he meets up with, I'm jealous and just fed-up. Where is my guy? I think it's my weight, I mean I am not obese but overweight sure. I'm going on a diet in New Year and really I feel so crap about myself I know I will stick to it but then I wonder is it wrong for me to have to lose weight to get a guy and be happy? Then I wonder though if it isn't my weight what is it? Am I ugly, do I not have a great personality? I mean my friends say I do but they are friends and are supposed to say it. Everywhere I look people are falling into each other but it seems impossible for me, I think I have been cursed..

Sorry about all this, I've had an exhausting year, here's to 2011. Phew, I do say though I feel much better after typing that out. Well a smidgen..?

I can totally understand what you mean. The worst thing about feeling lonely isn't even the loneliness, it's the feeling that loneliness is some sort of sin. Like everyone else finds it easy but you don't, so you stand out. Like people judge you for it. Well, that how I feel sometimes anyway.

Fact is, you're right. It's so not the end of the world. Turns out, most people feel lonely. Lots of people are far older than you when they find their first boyfriend/girlfriend. I know it sounds crazy/cliche, but it just takes a bit of time. You will find someone, and certainly keep looking, but don't worry about it, you're gonna be fine.

John400

OP, first off, you're 19, so you're quite young. Obviously the positive there is that you do have time on your side for sure.

Stop concentrating on your weight, so you're a bit overweight, so what? It's certainly not the be all and end all in obtaining a potential partner.

I do believe in what people on here say in relation to issues like yours, stop worrying and thinking about potential boyfriends because when you're in that state of mind guys will sense the desperation and run a mile.

You will eventually meet somebody when you least expect it. You need to concentrate on your own interests etc and think positively.

Resi12

John400 wrote: »

OP, first off, you're 19, so you're quite young. Obviously the positive there is that you do have time on your side for sure.

Stop concentrating on your weight, so you're a bit overweight, so what? It's certainly not the be all and end all in obtaining a potential partner.

I do believe in what people on here say in relation to issues like yours, stop worrying and thinking about potential boyfriends because when you're in that state of mind guys will sense the desperation and run a mile.

You will eventually meet somebody when you least expect it. You need to concentrate on your own interests etc and think positively.

I know, dear God I wish it was that easy but I'm really self-conscious of my weight so for me to ignore it is near impossible as of now. I know I worry sometimes I do come across desperate which only makes me more concious and worried. I'm such a mess..