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Drinking Problem and Friend

  • 26-12-2010 11:59pm
    #1
    garymac27
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24 ✭


    I have a friend who drinks most of the time, he would drink everyday if he had access to it. He has no friends! He has no personal belongings and has a history of doing some really stupid stuff when under the influence of drink. Been in trouble with the law many times.

    He doesn't seem to accept that he has a problem.

    Anybody have any suggestions of the way I can help?


Comments

  • #2
    Mr Johnson
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 44 ✭Mr Johnson


    Tell him that you think he has a drinking problem. Ask him if he wants you to help him to do something about it. If he says no or denies that he has a problem then forget about it, you can't help an addict if they don't want help.
    Just let him know that you're available if he decides to look for help.


  • #3
    UpCork
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 688 ✭✭✭UpCork


    I've in a similar situtation to you. It's been going on for several years now. Any offers of help are snubbed and I (and other friends) are told "I don't have a problem". I thought there was a bit of a breakthrough last year when I heard she'd told another friend that she did have a problem but resoloutely said "I don't want help". Therefore mine/our hands are tied.

    I've learnt from seeing a few people at close proximity with addiction that they need to want help first and foremost and they need to want to get the help for them. No point in them getting help to please someone else.

    Unfortunately, there is no helping someone until the above criteria are met. It's difficult


  • #4
    Taltos
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,830 ✭✭✭✭Taltos


    Offer to help this one last time, let them know this is it for you and you refuse to take anymore of their excuses or crap.
    If rejected then walk away.
    If accepted help but if they fail again walk away.

    Don't let your friendship fool you into believing that by being their friend that you are helping.

    At the end of the day, it is their life and choice. You have to accept that...


  • #5
    hsi
    Closed Accounts Posts: 132 ✭✭hsi


    garymac27 wrote: »
    I have a friend who drinks most of the time, he would drink everyday if he had access to it. He has no friends! He has no personal belongings and has a history of doing some really stupid stuff when under the influence of drink. Been in trouble with the law many times.

    He doesn't seem to accept that he has a problem.

    Anybody have any suggestions of the way I can help?


    He is your friend, yet he has no friends? The Guy is an alcoholic and unless he wants help there is little you can do. I would call it out, but to be honest unless he wants to change he wont.


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