Help in going out

LegacyUser

I'm 17 in feb, but my parents dont leave me go out, even though all my friends do.any advice on helping them change their minds?

dudara

When you say "go out" do you mean to pubs/nightclubs, or are you referring to something else?

Chuchoter

Big distinction there between out to friends and out to get hammered. Also what year are you in?

killerking

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I'm 17 in feb, but my parents dont leave me go out, even though all my friends do.any advice on helping them change their minds?

If you really want to go out, break the rules and go out without permission and stick to your guns when you get in trouble with your parents.

Or else just wait until you are 18 when you can do what you want.

Up to you.

Wompa1

If you live at home you should abide by the rules or move out...it's harsh but until your 18 you are their responsibility. They can be brought to trial if you become a little tear away..when you are 18 then you should move out and do whatever you want.

tinkerbell

OP, your parents will let you out if they have your trust. Presumably in their eyes, you're 17, maybe impressionable, they worry about you, etc. Don't throw a tantrum when they say you can't go out. That'll make you look like an immature teenager. Suggest a compromise. Ask if you can go out for an hour with your friends and you will not be late home. If you do this a few times, then you will have earned some trust from them, and they might allow you to stay out for 2 hours next time, etc.

Are you intending to go out and get wasted? Have you done anything in the past that would make them not want you to go out?

miaowmiaow

Been there, done that, lied my way out of trouble the few times I was bothered enough to actually go out. :rolleyes: But i do feel your pain! My step dad in particular was strongly against me heading out in to the ever-so-wild nightlife of kilkenny, even to my best friend's 18th! Thing is, I don't even drink.

All i can advise you is the "Earn their trust" idea actually doesn't work with particular types of parents. Maybe the real problem is that your parents can't see you as a rational, mature (and almost legal) adult. However, despite the fact that you're underage (and I'm presuming you're talking about heading out to pubs) feeling left out sucks.

So, here's a possible white lie to sort you out that I learnt from my dear brother...
Tell your parents you're going to a late night screening of some film in town with your friends, and it'll be finished late. Do look up times and summaries of said film though to be safe, in case of questions and inquisitive family members. Then instead, for a few hours at least, you can do whatever you want. But that depends on a cinema being nearby!

However, bear in mind that ultimately you are underage for a reason, and even though there isn't some massive leap of maturity when you suddenly turn 18, you could still possibly benefit from waiting another year. Don't fall into the trap of peer pressure...
Good luck!

tenchi-fan

16 is sorta young to be going out. February isn't far away. Start working on your parents now.. try to get them to agree to let you go out when you're 17. Then when you're 17 you can remind them that they agreed you could go out.

Legally, your parents have a responsibility to make sure you don't drink until you're 18.