Ego Boost or what?

LegacyUser

Hi Guys,

Just after reading through some of the threads here and am really interested in people's opinions on why some guys text/call you when they actually have no interest in you?

Is it just a big game to them?

I was recently with a guy a few times, slept with him once, really liked him. He texted me afterwards and called and then out of nowhere just vanished. He texted me saying hey, how are ya and I replied saying good etc how about you?

That was 2 days ago!!

I just don't get why they bother wasting their time and credit?!

What's the deal with it?

LegacyUser

Any takers?? C'mon peeps:)

killerking

It's best to move on I think.
Lots of guys can't but they know women do and seem to think if it makes them miserable it makes them feel better.
Actually women feel better because men are miserable and can't move on after what basically amounted to a lousy fumble.

Ickle Magoo

Can we dial back on the crass gender generalities please killerking, it helps no-one.

Please take the time to read the forum rules in the charter.

Many thanks.
Ickle

cafecolour

I think a lot of people, guys and girls, mistakenly think it's politer/'friendlier' to continues the odd friendly text rather than just cut off contact completely (which seems rude to them).

LegacyUser

cafecolour wrote: »

I think a lot of people, guys and girls, mistakenly think it's politer/'friendlier' to continues the odd friendly text rather than just cut off contact completely (which seems rude to them).

I slept with this guy last weekend and he seemed to really like me.

I had known him for a few weeks beforehand.

He then texted on wednesday and also called on thursday. I missed the call but texted him saying happy christmas and he never bothered replying.

To me that is sooooooooooooooooo rude!!

It wouldn't kill him to simply reply 'same to you'.

Clearly a user and a jerk!

booboo88

boostmyego wrote: »

I slept with this guy last weekend and he seemed to really like me.

I had known him for a few weeks beforehand.

He then texted on wednesday and also called on thursday. I missed the call but texted him saying happy christmas and he never bothered replying.

To me that is sooooooooooooooooo rude!!

It wouldn't kill him to simply reply 'same to you'.

Clearly a user and a jerk!

or out of credit?

LegacyUser

booboo88 wrote: »

or out of credit?

As if! It's christmas day and he'd need credit to text his family and friends.
Plus he has a really well paid job and is wealthy. I think he's bill phone.

I was used, plain and simple. I just don't get why he bothered texting and calling!
Maybe he was bored or drunk or just game playing.Bah humbug!

It's really hurt me tbh

Also if you like somone, you get credit!
No excuses, I need to accept he's just not taht into me!

I think it's usually because they want to keep you 'hanging around' as a backup, either as an ego boost because they have a girlfriend (they text you when alone and bored, but it stops when the GF is around), or have started seeing someone new but aren't sure what's going to come of it, or because they're single but sleeping around and may want a booty call in the future. I used to get random, sporadic texts from guys I'd kissed when I was out (sometimes about 6 weeks later) and I knew exactly what they were up to. So yeah, I think most of the time, it's either an ego boost or testing the waters for a future hook-up. If you're interested in someone, you don't just 'run out of credit' for days on end.