Living with an ex again

LegacyUser

The thing is because of certain situation that has occurred, me and my daughter have had to move back in with my ex, her dad. The situation is complicated as I do not get on with my ex but I have had no choice but to move back in with him, due to financial constraints. He is currently away down the country, which is giving me some respite, but he always believes he is right and I should listen and do what he says, as it is the right thing. I know he is controlling and sometimes the bully and more often than not, I end up crying and our daughter gets frustrated at it all. I am working but even though I am, he still puts a heap of pressure on me about getting a place, ( we only moved back in November) but I cannot afford to do so yet. It may take months to get a place, and one within a budget but at the moment I have no idea, how to get through this, living with him. He has a short fuse and has set views on things. He told me that if everything goes against him, then he will as he says, close down everything and that I will find myself on my own. I know that is threatening behaviour.

Has anyone any advice on how to get through with living with an ex, even for the next few months? I don't know how I am going to get through Christmas.

Stheno

Sounds unlikely from your post but would he consider mediation?

That aside, I suggest that you find some time to sit down with him and thrash out the rules you can both live with.

You are sharing accomodation, nothing more, and if you can fix basic house rules you should. You should have an agreement about rent/bills and outside of that essentially you don't need to have much interaction. It is important for your daughters sake that you both try to be civil.

Good luck.

tenchi-fan

It sounds like you have a very negative and defeated attitude. You should try being more positive, ensure you have your own space in his house, and learn to recognise the beginnings of arguments and don't get drawn into them.