First Date - Now What??

LegacyUser

Hi Guys,

Just looking for soem opinions here.

I went on a first date with a guy last weekend and it went really well.
I asked him out (met him on an evening language course).
He's beautiful looking and a really cool guy and the date went well.

However, the next day he texted asking if I got home okay and saying he had a good night.
I replied saying yes to both. Then n Wedensday he texted saying how is your week going?
I replied saying it's going well how about you and he replied yeah good.

And there's been nothing since!

I really want him to be manly and just ask me out again. I feel that because I instigated teh first date it's up to him to set up teh next one but he just isn't!

It's Friday now so it's too late for him to aks me out this weekend.

I just don't get it. If he doesn't like me then fair enough but why bother texting inane stuff like...so, how's your week going..if you've no intent on taking it further??

He's clearly not that into me, is that what it is?

He was all over me on the date though and told me he thought i was stunning etc etc

What the hell??

neveah

I know how headwrecking these situations can be! Why not text him today and ask him what's he up to for the weekend? See what he says, maybe he has something on and this is why he hasn't suggested meeting up again. If he's not up to much then suggest that ye go for a few drinks or a coffee or something and see what he says. If he says no, then at least you know where you stand. Don't ask again then after that, you will have made enough effort and it will totally be up to him to contact you.

Colonel_McCoy

Call him and ask him out again. You will cut out the waiting around time for a text back from him.

Make it happen OP.

LegacyUser

Thanks guys...in fairness though I feel like I have already made enough effort.
He knows I like him (I did ask him out afterall!) and I think if he liked me enough he'd
set up another date.

I don't mind at all if he's not into me, I just don't understand the text messages asking how my week is going etc. What's the point?

I guess he's just not that into me. Oh well!

Beruthiel

meadhelted wrote: »

However, the next day he texted asking if I got home okay and saying he had a good night

A perfect time to have asked him if he would be interested in doing it again.

What's wrong with just asking him if he is interested in meeting up over the weekend?
Either way, you'll know.

You'll be a long time dead....

kjl

I don't mean this badly OP, but did he try to kiss you on the date? I have been asked out by girls who I am not interested before and I say yes and go along, but I keep it very polite, tbh, if he didn't try for a kiss, I would say it might have been a pitty date. As bad as that sounds. I really don't mean to be offensive OP.

Miss Fluff

Didn't you post about this a few days ago worrying why he hadn't been in touch?

LegacyUser

Miss Fluff wrote: »

Didn't you post about this a few days ago worrying why he hadn't been in touch?

What's your point?

johnboysligo

to op,
Did you at any point text or call him that wasnt a reply to one of his calls or texts because to me that makes me think **** "well she seems to only reply but why doesn't she seem interested in starting some conversations?
If you didn't than he probably thinks you are not interested in more dates with him.
you need to realize that not ever man is a manly man. We are just as flattered by attention as girls are.

my advice is to text or call him just ask him how he is and what not, show him you know he exists and give a hoot about his day / week / whatever. It may be the key signal he wanted before continuing.



**** not meant about you just if I was the one starting all the conversations with someone than I would take it as a hint that the other person wasn't interested in me.

off topic here: Ive suggested being upfront to two different op's in this forum but im scared witless by most women

Wompa1

johnboysligo wrote: »

to op,
Did you at any point text or call him that wasnt a reply to one of his calls or texts because to me that makes me think **** "well she seems to only reply but why doesn't she seem interested in starting some conversations?
If you didn't than he probably thinks you are not interested in more dates with him.
you need to realize that not ever man is a manly man. We are just as flattered by attention as girls are.

my advice is to text or call him just ask him how he is and what not, show him you know he exists and give a hoot about his day / week / whatever. It may be the key signal he wanted before continuing.



**** not meant about you just if I was the one starting all the conversations with someone than I would take it as a hint that the other person wasn't interested in me.

off topic here: Ive suggested being upfront to two different op's in this forum but im scared witless by most women

That's exactly what I was thinking. He was trying to gauge your interest but if you tried to be coy and only answer what he asked then he might just think well maybe she's not as interested as I thought and leave it.

LegacyUser

Wompa1 wrote: »

That's exactly what I was thinking. He was trying to gauge your interest but if you tried to be coy and only answer what he asked then he might just think well maybe she's not as interested as I thought and leave it.

I agree with this.

I'd be the same as this. If I was doing all the texting after the date, then i'd think she wasn't interested after the date so I'd leave it!

I'd say give him a text after the weekend to ask how his weekend was etc. You don't have to ask him out again but you can show you're still interested in him with texts like that. That might encourage him to ask you out again if he's interested, which I'd say he is if he texted you twice since the first date...

Good luck!