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Will I ever love again?

  • 14-12-2010 12:04am
    #1
    ellensg
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1 ✭


    Hello....
    So my bf broke up with me a few months ago and I'm trying my best to get over him, he really doesn't want to get back with me and in may ways I don't want to get back with him.. my heart says yes but my head says no... he two timed me multiple times and dumped me very suddenly when I'd given my all to the relationship.
    Anyways, I want to get back out there... i've kissed 1 guy since the break up who i've had no interest in at all...
    People always say that I'm really hot, intelligent and fun... but i find no guys very interesting....
    Will I find love again?? I'm 30 and the clock is ticking so any experiences would be great


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Snap! just spent the last few hours crying my eyes out, even though I know it's a lost cause.
    The thought of meeting another user is scary, it's hard not to let the hurt cloud your thinking. And harder still not to come across as desperate, when all you want is to be in a committed loving relationship. To quote Bonnie Tyler, where have all the good men gone?!?


  • #3
    weatherguy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 92 ✭✭weatherguy


    ellensg wrote: »
    Hello....
    So my bf broke up with me a few months ago and I'm trying my best to get over him, he really doesn't want to get back with me and in may ways I don't want to get back with him.. my heart says yes but my head says no... he two timed me multiple times and dumped me very suddenly when I'd given my all to the relationship.
    Anyways, I want to get back out there... i've kissed 1 guy since the break up who i've had no interest in at all...
    People always say that I'm really hot, intelligent and fun... but i find no guys very interesting....
    Will I find love again?? I'm 30 and the clock is ticking so any experiences would be great


    Well, you are only 30. yes you are still young, attractive and you will heal and meet someone else. We've all been through it. Yes, at the time we don't think we will ever overcome our sad loss, especially when we have invested so much emotion in the relationship. But it is now time to let go.
    Here are my tips for what they are worth for getting over an ex.
    * Delete all music you both enjoyed together or music that reminds him of you.
    * Dump all pressies, including clothes, he may have bought you.
    * Delete all texts and other luvvy duvvy messages he may have sent to you or you to him. Ditto for cards
    * Make a conscious effort to be with your genuine friends this festive season and try to avoid being alone in your house/apartment.
    * VERY IMPORTANT do not send him a xmas card or pressie. Even if he send you one, DO NOT send one back.
    * VERY VERY IMPORTANT Buy yourself some lovely pressies this Xmas. Clothes, jewellry, CDs.
    Finally, if you do meet your ex be polite without being over friendly, chat to him as some guy you once dated but that was long ago. Don't let him see you are upset. And if a guy approaches you and chats to you don't ignore him. Rather chat away as though he is just a mate and not a new potential boyfriend.

    If you are still feeling low may I suggest you Google the poem Desiderata.
    That will restore you self confidence and self worth.
    Have a lovely Christmas and I hope your heartache heals soon for youl.


  • #4
    weatherguy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 92 ✭✭weatherguy


    afldjksgldkf wrote: »
    Snap! just spent the last few hours crying my eyes out, even though I know it's a lost cause.
    The thought of meeting another user is scary, it's hard not to let the hurt cloud your thinking. And harder still not to come across as desperate, when all you want is to be in a committed loving relationship. To quote Bonnie Tyler, where have all the good men gone?!?

    I could say the same about the good women, where are they gone?
    `Believe me, I've been let down many times by women, and subsequently felt terrible and very low in myself.
    Gradually, I pulled myself up and got back out there and became myself again. It takes time granted.
    But you will meet that special guy.
    Baby steps first, then day by day you will regain your confidence and the 'desperate' feelings will disappear and you will be yourself again ready to enter the realm of relationships.
    Best of luck and Merry Christmas.


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