Another Lonely Thread

LegacyUser

I am so lonely here. My friends disappointed me. My ex. was engaged with another woman in a short while after we ended. I have not got many friends here in Ireland. A friend I txted her the news and told her I was so down, she never got back to me that day. The other day she saw me, she did not explain why or mentioned that she got the txt.

I told my friends at my home country. One talked with me once and sent me an email once. The other one I thought she was my good friend, I could never contact her. She sent me a brief email asking me how I was. That's it. When I wrote her long email, she replied she was busy and she would get back to me, but she did not.

No one would call me. One of my good friends here knew I lost the love, he said I could always call him to talk, but he never reaches out to check whether I am OK. No one really care about me. If I dont reach out to my friends, I think it would be months that I hear from them asking whether I am OK.

I feel I am abandoned by every one.

LegacyUser

I know how you feel op. My only advice is this: **** everyone else. Focus on just yourself and don't even entertain the notion of communication with other people, save for typical daily interactions(transactions and such). Everyone is motivated by gain. Friendship is a form of self gain. Forget everyone else, focus on you.

LegacyUser

I dont really get you. Your advice is full of anger... Are you teasing me for being self-absorbed?

No offense, but this is what I am thinking... maybe I am too self-absorbed that I only think of myself when I am down and I cant think of anyone else?

Say these two friends of mine, I know they are facing some problems as well. But I would check them up sometimes to see how the progress of their problems and send them long emails etc etc...

I don't know, just feeling that I am being abandoned. And unless you reach out, people would not care.

Gerry.L

I dont usually post here... (more of a lurker) but I know exactly how you feel. This time last year I was in that same exact boat and its terrible.

No offence to my_advice but emmm I think saying for the OP to forget everyone else is counter productive. He wants to have friends.... **REAL** friends.

OP if you want pm me and I'll send ya some links and info and stuff

johnboysligo

I was in a similar situation back in August / September my formerly good friends didn't seem to know I existed unless I poked them.
I bit the bullet and cut all ties with them it felt terrible and still does feel pretty bad but i wasn't gaining anything from these people.

Toughest part of loosing a friend is realizing you lost them a long time ago and the less time you spend worrying about other people and their feelings and the more time you spend trying to deal with yours will let you get a grip and eventually deal with your emotions.
It sounds cold and it is but if they are being frosty to you then you have every reason to be just as cold in turn.

The world is a big place full of people both nice ones and ****ty ones reach out and make some new friends you might fall in with a group of people who really do care for you.

p.s. cutting all contact is harsh ( my situation was different ) and it might not be something you could do or even want to think about but some friendships / relationships just don't last.