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Falling back in love?

  • 12-12-2010 2:22pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    At the moment I'm a bit of a mess. My GF of the last 7 years has recently confessed that she is not sure if she is still "in love" with me. She says she still loves me but that there's no spark there. Its true that the romance has dwindled out of our relationship but we still get on very well and have never really fought in all our time together.

    She says she doesnt know what she wants at the moment and that she 50/50 as to whether to split up or stay together. She may be having some grass is greener issues. We have become too domesticated, she is 28 and I'm 30, I know she would love more adventure and so would I, what I need to try to do is to get us back to a romantic and loving headspace together. We own a house that we bought 2 years ago so if it came to it we would most likely have to sell it and take a hit financially. At the moment I really dont want to split and we both are willing to work on it but are realistic that there may very well come a time when we have to call it a day.

    Up until we bought the house we were living in the city centre and our friends live around the city centre area. I think she misses the buzz of the city to a certain degree and has fears that life is passing her by.

    So is it possible to get back to that romantic adventurous time? Is some time apart the best thing to do in the short term?

    Emotionally I'm swinging between anger, fear, acceptance and hope. In my hopeful moments I figure that she fell in love with me once she can do it again as long as we're more pro-active within our relationship and make things exciting for ourselves.


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  • #2
    MissHoneyBun
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,131 ✭✭✭MissHoneyBun


    Well at least you're making the effort in taking on board what she said and trying to find ways to make things work. Of course there are ways to be romantic and adventurous, what you have to be aware of is they won't happen by accident. Being pro-active is the key, actively listening and then actively responding to each others needs.


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