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  • 09-12-2010 9:27pm
    #1
    carmad
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 50 ✭✭


    Hi Everyone,

    I'm a young guy, and was dating this girl for 6 months.
    We got pretty serious, and fell in love. But we're really similar
    and spark off each other some times.

    So she went off in September to Germany for college. I wanted to keep the
    relationship going. But she insisted that she wanted to be in college. So although it broke me heart, I loved her so much that I wasn't going to hold her back. By having a long distance relationship for 4 years.

    Now She wants me back, reckons it can work? can it? I don't think it can.
    I don't have that love there, but I don't want to hurt her now. I really want to date someone before she gets back to Ireland before christmas. So I have a good excuse. Am I being bad here? or is it ok trying to stop yourselve getting hurt again!


    Bear in mind. Both early 20's.


Comments

  • #2
    Silverfish
    Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 16,698 Mod ✭✭✭✭Silverfish


    Moved from tLL to Relationship Issues (ladies post here too!)

    You'll get better responses here.


  • #3
    Wompa1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,193 ✭✭✭Wompa1


    Are you in a relationship with her or not? How often have you guys been seeing each other in the last 4 years? If you guys broke up and now she wants you back I'd say go ahead and do whatever you want, that might make you help up your mind what's right for you.

    Personally I wouldn't go back to any old relationship more of a look forward, don't look back person


  • #4
    squishykins
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,338 ✭✭✭squishykins


    Have you seen, or even spoken to her over the 4 years? If you have, you know full well how you feel, and you'll just have to let her down. It's difficult, but necessary. No point leading her on if the feelings aren't there.

    If you haven't seen her or anything, sure meet up, have a chat, see where it goes. Even if you did decide to give it another go though, I wouldn't just pick up where you left off, it'd be kinda like starting again.

    That's just what I'd do, someone else might think something completely different.


  • #5
    FayeRayRay
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 62 ✭✭FayeRayRay


    Generally I have found that if you broke up before you will most likely break up again for the exact same reason. But hey if you think she'll make you happy then I dont see why not.

    x


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