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Why does she text me?

  • 07-12-2010 9:56am
    #1
    jimbob29
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17 ✭


    I met a girl a few times, we used to text each other every day, ring each other sometimes but recently contact has dried up. I presume she has met someone else but some days she texts me, i reply, hear nothing back and a couple of days after she texts me agian and so on so on. I wouldnt be too bothered if she has met someone else but why does she text me not reply to my texts and then text me again a few days later, anyone got any ideas?


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  • #2
    neveah
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 282 ✭✭neveah


    Have you asked her out at all or arranged to meet up since the last time you met?? Maybe she's waiting for you to ask her.....


  • #3
    Loopsie
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 198 ✭✭Loopsie


    Im sorry if this comes across as harsh but from a girls view and from someone who has done to guys what she is doing, you are merely a distraction. She may well have met someone and likes to keep you dangling. Advice, give her a taste of her own medicine to see if she is worth it. When she texts you leave it a few days now.......


  • #4
    jimbob29
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17 ✭jimbob29


    Loopsie wrote: »
    Im sorry if this comes across as harsh but from a girls view and from someone who has done to guys what she is doing, you are merely a distraction. She may well have met someone and likes to keep you dangling. Advice, give her a taste of her own medicine to see if she is worth it. When she texts you leave it a few days now.......
    Yeah, i think she has met someone else, don't know why she just does'nt tell me instead of keeping me dangling, she always initiates the texting now, then ignores my replies, think i shouldnt bother replying anymore allright.


  • #5
    neveah
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 282 ✭✭neveah


    My initial reaction is she's initiates the texts and then ignores your replies, that's just rude!

    However can you clarify one thing, do you ask her a question at the end of your replies? I think it's stupid but I have heard some people say 'well they never asked me a question so I didn't reply back', I've heard both men and women say this. This is where texting gets extremely frustrating and unclear. Sometimes I think sticking a random question in at the end of a text just doesn't read right so I don't do it but it doesn't mean I don't want to continue to text. I've been texting a guy for the last couple of weeks and after a few texts back and forth he just stops randomly without finishing the conversation and then he might text me again the next day or the day after that, I find this frustrating and I'm starting to think I might just be a distraction for him as well. Like you I've been wondering why he does this and the whole 'ask a question' thing popped into my head, I didn't ask him a question at the end of my last text so maybe he thinks I don't want to continue a conversation with him. I know it sounds silly but I've genuinly heard people say this so I wonder how rigidly people stick to these texting 'rules', or if they even do at all??


  • #6
    jimbob29
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17 ✭jimbob29


    neveah wrote: »
    My initial reaction is she's initiates the texts and then ignores your replies, that's just rude!

    However can you clarify one thing, do you ask her a question at the end of your replies? I think it's stupid but I have heard some people say 'well they never asked me a question so I didn't reply back', I've heard both men and women say this. This is where texting gets extremely frustrating and unclear. Sometimes I think sticking a random question in at the end of a text just doesn't read right so I don't do it but it doesn't mean I don't want to continue to text. I've been texting a guy for the last couple of weeks and after a few texts back and forth he just stops randomly without finishing the conversation and then he might text me again the next day or the day after that, I find this frustrating and I'm starting to think I might just be a distraction for him as well. Like you I've been wondering why he does this and the whole 'ask a question' thing popped into my head, I didn't ask him a question at the end of my last text so maybe he thinks I don't want to continue a conversation with him. I know it sounds silly but I've genuinly heard people say this so I wonder how rigidly people stick to these texting 'rules', or if they even do at all??
    Well yesterday, she text me asking me how my day was, i replied and at the end asked her how her day was and she never replied. She probably has met someone else or else is playing hard to get. Somedays i wouldnt get the chance to text her and she would text me late at night asking me did she do something wrong cause i didnt text, now it's the other extreme, time to forget her i think.


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  • #7
    nocturnal31
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11 ✭nocturnal31


    Sounds to me that she actually has had someone all along & I agree with previous post, you are just a distraction & perhaps even a 'reserve' to keep for the occasion she has free time from her BF. She texts you when her current BF drops her home late at night or when she just gets a notion...all to keep you interested but without commitment to actually starting something. Why not ask her if she has a BF & clear the air...good luck. She's a dark horse I bet with a 'secret life' :)


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