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In the mood?

  • 07-12-2010 12:21am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    In a LTR, a very ltr haha. 12 years to be exact. Very much in love and all that jazz but we've been having a bit of trouble getting in the mood. *blush*

    I think the main part is really letting go. When we both let go sex is wonderful, but both of us are too careful, too measured. My issue is that, if we do anything at all out of our norm, I feel really embarassed afterwards, if my husband mentions it after I feel awful and shy.

    Once or twice my husband has made cryptic comments in company, nobody else knew what he was speaking about as they are seemingly innocent but I knew what he meant and it made me uncomfortable. This just made my "shyness" about letting go worse, even though it was only once or twice he did it.

    It was never a problem before, maybe in the last 2 years only.

    I would like to plan an evening of lust, but, I'm just too embarassed to start anything beyond snuggling close in bed. Just typing this message, a thought popped into my head. I'm not sure my husband even sees me sexually anymore, or maybe that is unfair and putting my issue onto him. The truth is maybe I just don't feel sexy anymore? I don't know. I'm not prudish and I joke and laugh about sex the same as anybody else without feling shy, it's just actually when it comes to our own sex life.


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  • #2
    Sauve
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22,646 ✭✭✭✭Sauve


    My advice would be to make yourself feel sexy....
    Treat yourself to some really nice classy lingerie, doesn't have to be overly revealing as long as you feel fab wearing it.
    It might just give you the confidence you need to let go of that shyness, and I bet your OH will love it too....


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