I don't know what to do

LegacyUser

Well I don’t really know what to do, I’m an 18 year old girl have some problems. My puppy died a year ago and since then I havent being doing too well. First of all I get really sad really easily, I cry almost everyday, its either something really stupid or over the puppy. In my room I have an envelope with her collars in it (I know it sounds weird).

Recently I’ve started to...cut myself with pieces of plastic. The first one started with me doing badly in a class test and then it got out of hand with me cutting myself when I‘m sad or really angry. Now I see myself doing this like 5 days a week, some weeks I don’t do it at all but then others I do it alot. I can’t even go out in bear legs or even with tights on.
I can’t tell my family or anything, they will just go crazy at me and tell me to cop on or something. I can’t tell my friends either, they will either tell other people or talk about me behind my back, I know they don’t sound like good friends...And usually the day after I cut, I laugh uncontrolably at absolutly anything.

Please I just need some advice from people who have maybe been in a similar situation to myself. Maybe I should just stop acting stupid and get over myself? You can tell me if I just sound weird, I will take it as constructive to sort myself out.

hayser

Firstly, I'm very sorry you lost your puppy. It's horrible losing a pet because they are often the first place we experience unconditional love aside from our parents (ideally). Secondly, I don't have any experience with cutting but I wanted to post and tell you things will get better if you let them. If you're not comfortable telling your family or friends, then please go to a doctor or find ways to distract yourself when you feel the urge coming on such as going for a walk, call someone, watch TV or read a book. I wish you the very best of luck.

Ainekav

I think you need to tell someone, do you have an older sibling/cousin/family friend that you trust?

Could you go to a doctor and tell them?

If your family knew how you were feeling they would be more concerned then angry I am guessing. You may think they will go mad, and they might at first, but they will most likely want you to get better...

just tell someone how your feeling - its never as bad as you think it wil be and people will be more supportive than you think.

jimmycrackcorm

Confused and upset wrote: »

Maybe I should just stop acting stupid and get over myself? You can tell me if I just sound weird, I will take it as constructive to sort myself out.

I don't believe in the softly softly approach and since you specifically mentioned this then I think you need to explore it a bit more. I think also that people don't put enough belief into their own ability to solve their problems. Instead it's the doctor or drugs that is the golden ticket.

I'd suggest you do get another pet though. People replace pets all the time and you obviously found great solace in your puppy so another pet would at least give you great comfort.

Well on the issue of the cuts, you need to deal with this straight away. Stop cutting. It's holding you back at the moment, but if you keep this up, or pick at them, you'll be left with scars. You WILL feel better, and a big part of that will be letting this moment in time go. You need to look forward and it will be so much harder if you're constantly reminded of the past with scars on your body. Let them heal. Any good feelings you think you're getting from cutting are only temporary, and they're not good, because they're extremely unhealthy feelings. Damaging your own body is the worst habit to get in to and the hardest to break, stop it asap.

As for how you're feeling, it's totally understandable to feel down after losing a puppy. However, you can't let it affect you like this. It is something bad that happened. It is one moment in your life. You don't have to forget it, you don't have to try not to think it's sad. You do have to stop dwelling on it. You have to move on. You can't change what happened and you can't let it stop you from forming happy memories. I wouldn't be surprised if you're also under stress from other things. Same goes for them: try to not let them affect you. (I'm not saying it's easy by the way, I know it will take a lot of effort but you'll feel better in the long term.)

Your post seems to me like you're not looking for sympathy. You seem to genuinely want constructive help and that's really good to see. I'm sure you're strong enough and wise enough to persevere and try to get better. If you can get to a doctor, or have anyone you can talk to, please do. If not, as said before, don't underestimate your power to help yourself. Feel happy soon

LegacyUser

Op as someone who is currently struggling with panic attacks and being on the edge of tears a lot during the day - you are not weird. I am the same in that I want to sort it out somehow and go back to my life being enjoyable again. It's a terrible thing when your negative feelings get the better of you.

I really think you should go to see a doctor to start. Especially if you are cutting. This post is not a cry for sympathy on your part, it's from someone who needs help and more importantly,wants help.You do need to try and stop cutting, but you may find it hard to do it by yourself. You are not mad but you should ask someone for help.Probably not your friends as I don't think they'd really be able to offer much by way of advice - do you have anyone in your family that you can trust or talk to? Or a teacher?

Please don't be afraid to ask for help.Everyone needs help at some point in their lives, and it's nothing to be ashamed of.