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heartbroken

  • 06-12-2010 4:17pm
    #1
    paddy1909
    Closed Accounts Posts: 18 ✭


    im posting here for advice for a good mate of mine.
    in the last couple of weeks, a good mate of mine has been in a horrible state of depression caused by a girl he loves not loving him back.
    he met a girl a couple of months ago in work and they were good friends. nothing ever happened between them but he's fallen hard for her. she has since left the job due to finding something else and ever since, he is not the same guy. he told her he has feelings for her but it turns out she has a boyfriend. she wants to remain friends with him but he doesnt know what to do. he wants to forget about her. what advice can i give him to help him move on from this?
    is it stupid to tell him to forget her when they were such good friends? ive never been in this situation so dont know- is it hard to be friends with someone you have feelings for? or will i advise him to just remain her friend- meet her for coffee/drinks?
    what do you all think? anyone been here before?
    if i tell him he doesnt need to cut her out completely, would this cheer him up? the guy thinks he's in love. it just pains me to see him so down. hes usually the happy man in the gang! he wont even meet for beers anymore...


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  • #2
    mrpink6789
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 830 ✭✭✭mrpink6789


    You'll probably get some answers around the lines of "tough love" but it's literally the only thing that can be done in a situation like this. we have all liked someone and they have not liked us back, some single, some in a relationship. What worked for me is just cutting off that person from my life. Its just tough to be friends with someone when you like them.

    you just have to get him out with the lads to forget about her, it will get better in time.


  • #3
    paddy1909
    Closed Accounts Posts: 18 ✭paddy1909


    cheers mrpink. and if he forgets about her completely and a few weeks down the line bumps into her, will he still be ok? i don't want him getting back into a depression if he happens to bump into her or hear from her..


  • #4
    whatsamsn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 911 ✭✭✭whatsamsn


    She wants to be friends, but he is mad about her? So to hell with her. Nothing worse than seeing someone you wanna be with, be with someone else. Im sure certain people would see as "childish and immature" - its not, its just life.

    Tell him to try to avoid her aswell.


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