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LegacyUser

Right guys, this is my first Xmas as a singleton, and while it's great& I'm not necessarily looking to meet anyone just yet, what I WOULD like to do is look my absolute best (for when I bump into the ex- call it a form of revenge!)
Now, don't want to look emaciated, just toned& fit, absolute max half a stone lighter than what I am now. Question is: diet& exercise-wise, what's most effective, way to achieve this in 2.5weeks?
And on a personal note, when I do bump into the ex, would you recommend ignoring, or saying hello& walking on, or stop to have a chat?

Katgurl

He's not going to notice half a stone specifically but he will notice that you look well. Hit the gym, do a combo of weights and cardio. Get your hair cut and be a skin routin Nazi - whatever works best for you. Use fake tan a shade lighter than your summer one, it won't be noticeable and very slimming.

When you see him, big smile and hello and keep walking, act completely nonchalent.

LegacyUser

If he dumped you, then why would he care what you look like? He obviously dumped you as he wasn't into you, or is someone trying to get one up on the other?
I know I got dumped a while ago, and if I saw my ex, I wouldn't care what she looked like or who she was with. "Been there, done that", and I've moved on...
Look good for yourself, not for others...

Liam Byrne

Revenge and all variations of it are a bad idea.

If the break-up was nasty (and I assume it was if you're thinking of revenge) just get on with your own life and don't give a flying you-know-what about what he/she is thinking.

Princess Peach

Don't work yourself to the bone or starve yourself for him! If you want to look good, I think the best way is to just be happy! If you want to make some effort, go to an underwear shop and get some magic knickers, they do the job without any of the sweat.

If you do see him on a night out, make sure to look like you are enjoying yourself, having a great time with your friends. Maybe just make a little eye contact or a small wave, or if you pass him, a polite hello. If he wants to talk to you then, he will come up to you.

The first time I saw my ex after he dumped me, I was very drunk, panicked and pretended I didn't see him, went to the bathroom and was sick and the cried my way home! Don't let this be you!

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Princess Peach wrote: »

Don't work yourself to the bone or starve yourself for him!

^ This. In fact, nothing you do should be impacted by him.

If you're not happy with your weight, then you should lose it for you. The Fitness and Nutrition & Diet forums are full of useful advice. Crash diets are never a good idea.

Novella

He's your ex, it's over. Don't do anything for him. If you want to look better, want to for you. I mean, why on earth lose half a stone, get your hair done etc., just to walk by someone and potentially ignore them? Seriously. If he dumped you, he didn't and does not want to be with you, wants something else and basically does not care what you look like because he is not with you. Move on, that's what you need to do.

LegacyUser

I'm a guy and after ending my relationship with my ex, I couldn't give a flying [you know what] if she turns into Kate Moss' twin sister, I'm not into her, I don't care about her, I ended the relationship, I moved on, and I'm not going to feel one tiny ounce of guilt or regret if I see her in a club looking what she feels is amazing (most men rarely notice clothes/hair and such anyway), I'd most likely look the other way not wanting that awkward post-breakup 'hello'.

It actually bothers me a bit to think that she would make effort to look good just on the grounds that she MAY bump into me in a pub/club or such when out, as clearly when I ended the relationship, my interest wasn't in her, so I'm certainly not going to be into her now that I'm single and free of her!

I wouldn't notice if a woman lost 2 or 3 stone in most cases, nevermind half a stone! I don't believe any man would notice half a stone.

You really need to forget about your ex and focus on you. Because he won't be focusing on you!

spinandscribble

Theres no harm in wanting to look your best but not if its for him.

If he dumped you it's unlikely he'll be impressed enough to feel anything.

If you dumped him then... its a bit odd you want to impress him.

Noone wants to look a complete mess in front of a ex but noone would want to look a complete mess in front of a stranger either.

How you address/don't address him depends on the pair of you.

JonathanAnon

You'd be better off avoiding going to the places where he goes.. if you dont want to end up drunk and in tears at the end of the night.... which sounds like the way you're heading.. esp at an emotional time of year like xmas.. I mean what are you gonna do if he's there with somebody else.. ?

Like was said above, forget about him.. Enjoy christmas somewhere away from him.. you will have a better time..

Dudess

You're gonna make barely any difference in two and a half weeks, and given the season that's in it, it's gonna be VERY hard to avoid high-cal foods, plus it's not the weather for much outdoor exercise. Just do whatever you can in terms of skincare, drinking plenty of water, whatever exercise (head to the gym and/or maybe some classes like dance, aerobics) and healthy eating you can manage, and look your best when heading out at Christmas - it may not necessarily make a difference to him (and why should it?) but it will give you a confidence boost, which you probably need right now, as does anyone after a break-up, especially at Christmas.

If you want to overhaul yourself completely to make him think "Damn! Why did I give her up?!" (and I don't know whether that's particularly constructive thinking - you need to move on) it's gonna take a good deal longer than between now and Christmas, so maybe focus on it in the new year. But think of it more as a new start for yourself...