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MY brother tried to kill himself! Need advice on what to do?

  • 05-12-2010 5:48pm
    #1
    cooltown
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 288 ✭✭


    I have a brother who is 28 and he recently tried to kill himself the thing is my parents are always moaning on about god and going to mass and they feel ashamed of him I think. It happened in early November and I haven't being told yet. The only reason I know is because I read my mothers texts to my aunt.
    It happend on a Thursday night and my parents received word of it on Friday morning. They then ordered a taxi to collect me from school and left me at home alone for the weekend. They answered no phones during the weekend or nothing they just returned on the Monday morning and acted as normal. I do know that my brother was away with work over the last few years and he didn't have much contact with the family and also in September his girlfriend broke up with him!
    Any advice on what I should do?


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  • #2
    Miss Fluff
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    What age are you OP? What kind of relationship do you have with your brother? Where is he now?

    I'd be inclined to tell your parents that you know. You don't have to admit how you found out but tell them you know and then you can discuss it with them.


  • #3
    cooltown
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 288 ✭✭cooltown


    I'm 18! He is living away from home for work. He's in Ireland by the way.


  • #4
    Miss Fluff
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    I think its too big a burden to carry on your own. Tell your parents that you know and you want to talk to them about it.


  • #5
    Darlughda
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,886 ✭✭✭Darlughda


    cooltown wrote: »
    I have a brother who is 28 and he recently tried to kill himself the thing is my parents are always moaning on about god and going to mass and they feel ashamed of him I think. It happened in early November and I haven't being told yet. The only reason I know is because I read my mothers texts to my aunt.?

    Okay, so you don't know the full story. What is the relationship with your brother like? Can you ask him directly what is going on for him?

    I get from your post that you are frustrated with your parent's adherence to the societal forms of the religion they follow, but how did it occur that you were reading your mother's texts?
    Was that the only way you could get information from her?

    What is your Aunt like? Is she somebody you can talk to, seeing as she is a confidante of your mother, she could be a good person to go to for information regarding this situation if you cannot discuss this with your brother or your mother?
    cooltown wrote: »
    It happend on a Thursday night and my parents received word of it on Friday morning. They then ordered a taxi to collect me from school and left me at home alone for the weekend. They answered no phones during the weekend or nothing they just returned on the Monday morning and acted as normal..?
    If you don't mind me asking how old are you?
    When did you find your Mother's texts to her Aunt, was it before this? What did you ask them and how did they respond?
    cooltown wrote: »
    Any advice on what I should do?
    There are organisations out there who can help people who are suicidal, I'm sure the mods have included them on the sticky of useful no.s here on this forum, some of those organisations will help people who are dealing with a suicidal loved one.


  • #6
    cooltown
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 288 ✭✭cooltown


    Well when I was left alone by myself for the weekend I knew there was something wrong and I knew it was my only way of finding out what actually happened. My Aunt is ok. I don't know what she would tell me.


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  • #7
    SparkyTech
    Closed Accounts Posts: 590 ✭✭✭SparkyTech


    cooltown wrote: »
    I have a brother who is 28 and he recently tried to kill himself the thing is my parents are always moaning on about god and going to mass and they feel ashamed of him I think. It happened in early November and I haven't being told yet. The only reason I know is because I read my mothers texts to my aunt.
    It happend on a Thursday night and my parents received word of it on Friday morning. They then ordered a taxi to collect me from school and left me at home alone for the weekend. They answered no phones during the weekend or nothing they just returned on the Monday morning and acted as normal. I do know that my brother was away with work over the last few years and he didn't have much contact with the family and also in September his girlfriend broke up with him!
    Any advice on what I should do?

    Hi OP,

    You need to talk to your parents and if not them someone within your family you can trust as you still don't know the full details of whats happened. Can you approach your aunt? Ask your brother directly whats going on? I know you feel that your parents are heavily religious and you are slightly apprehensive of approaching them on this matter, but this is too much of a burden to carry on your own. You don't have to let them know HOW you came about to finding out about your brother but you need to discuss this with them, maybe call a mutual friend to come over and support you if you don't feel confident to broach it yourself.

    I hope your brother gets the support he needs.

    Best wishes


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