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Dating

  • 05-12-2010 12:49pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Female, 20 Starting dating a guy. Hes really great, really like him. On our 5th meet up, we made out ,but nothing sexual happened, just kissing and all. But I was playing the dating differently this time since nothing has worked in the past.I want to keep him guessing. What exactly is ok to do? As in bases. I dont want him to think Im slutty.I got the impression we were both having a laugh making out, but hes being, odd.
    Ive limited experience and am a v word(He doesnt know).I feel really comfortable with him,hes great.Friends reckon hes a keeper already. He even has mentioned my presense in the future and he looks after me. Help me not to mess this up? How do I keep him chasing etc? What does making out mean to guys ?General advice? Help!


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  • #2
    ApeXaviour
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,523 ✭✭✭ApeXaviour


    teasingdate wrote: »
    Female, 20 Starting dating a guy. Hes really great, really like him. On our 5th meet up, we made out ,but nothing sexual happened, just kissing and all. But I was playing the dating differently this time since nothing has worked in the past.I want to keep him guessing. What exactly is ok to do? As in bases. I dont want him to think Im slutty.
    Do what you want to do, progress at the pace you are comfortable with, not some socially prescribed arbitrary pace. Don't worry about seeming "slutty", you've only kissed after 5 dates so I think that's pretty impossible. Have some fun, don't overthink (except about contraception), just relax and enjoy.

    teasingdate wrote: »
    I got the impression we were both having a laugh making out, but hes being, odd.
    This is a little vague, odd how?


  • #3
    John400
    Closed Accounts Posts: 179 ✭✭John400


    I agree^

    Just go at your own pace with this guy, whatever you feel comfortable with.

    You brought up the fact that nothing sexual happened almost as if it'd be something to feel guilty about. Not at all.

    The sexual side of a relationship is certainly not the be all and end all especially of someone your younger age. Don't let this guy force you into anything you're not ready for.

    Believe me there are older couples out there who have been dating for a while and the sexual side of the relationship hasn't materilised as yet.


  • #4
    whatsamsn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 911 ✭✭✭whatsamsn


    Hmmm, Op am I right to belive you are asking on how to keep him interested but at the same time fearing you don't want to come off as slutty?

    But more so i'm curious because you say you are playing this differently since "nothing has worked in the past" - what do you mean?
    Do you want to tease this guy to see if he is worthy of being your first?


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