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  • 03-12-2010 2:38pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    So I started seeing this guy around a week ago. Events that follow:

    Drunk haze
    Sex
    No condom
    Symptomatic
    Doctor
    Gonorrhea
    Have taken once-off antibiotics.

    Thing is, I like him. Had a couple of dates during the week. It's not like I'm bad about this, it was my fault for my irresponsibility and he seems unaware.

    What would you do in this situation and how to tell him what I got from him and that he should get tested? It could wreck everything, right?


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  • #2
    Annasopra
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 41,156 ✭✭✭✭Annasopra


    Anonymoud wrote: »
    So I started seeing this guy around a week ago. Events that follow:

    Drunk haze
    Sex
    No condom
    Symptomatic
    Doctor
    Gonorrhea
    Have taken once-off antibiotics.

    Thing is, I like him. Had a couple of dates during the week. It's not like I'm bad about this, it was my fault for my irresponsibility and he seems unaware.

    What would you do in this situation and how to tell him what I got from him and that he should get tested? It could wreck everything, right?

    Simple - tell him you have Gonorrhea - you think you got it off him, you want to continue the relationship but only if he gets fully tested and can say that he is faithful

    It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.

    Terry Pratchet



  • #3
    akaspike
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 223 ✭✭akaspike


    You need to tell him. He may not know that he has it and should get tested asap.


  • #4
    MultiUmm
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 972 ✭✭✭MultiUmm


    If he was the one to give you Gonorrhoea OP chances are he had symptoms of it before you did. Gonorrhoea normally takes a week to manifest (open to correction on this) so he should've had symptoms before/ around the same time as you. For all you know he could be feeling the exact same way as you, I think your best option is to talk to him and try and clear up the situation.


  • #5
    Boston
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,163 ✭✭✭✭Boston


    I think things are already wretched between you guys. Not because of the gonorrhoea but because you delayed informing him about a risk to his health. If I was in his shoes I wouldn't have anything to do with someone that contemplated not telling me as a real possibility.
    MultiUmm wrote: »
    If he was the one to give you Gonorrhoea OP chances are he had symptoms of it before you did. Gonorrhoea normally takes a week to manifest (open to correction on this) so he should've had symptoms before/ around the same time as you. For all you know he could be feeling the exact same way as you, I think your best option is to talk to him and try and clear up the situation.

    There is no need to guess when you have access to the internet. Wikipedia tells me that symptons can manifest anywhere between 2 and 30 days after exposure and that a small number of men may show no symptoms at all.


  • #6
    foggy_lad
    Closed Accounts Posts: 20,373 ✭✭✭✭foggy_lad


    I'd tell him straight away that he may have it but you can't really say it was him that gave it to you. COuld easily have been the other way around.

    From the sequence of events you listed you should be asking when was the last time you got bladdered and took a risk with your own and someone else life?


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  • #7
    claire h
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,056 ✭✭✭claire h


    akaspike wrote: »
    You need to tell him. He may not know that he has it and should get tested asap.

    Yes, this. Good general rule. Health risks need to be sorted out first, never mind anything else.


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