What to do

LegacyUser

Hi Folks,

Would appreciate some advice on the following particularly from the male perspective but all replies most welcome.

Basically was at a conference last week and fancied this guy who was working there. Got the feeling he fancied me too ( talked a lot to me, caught him staring a few times). Only chatted as we were all working - nothing more.

Anyway he was very helpful with a couple of technical issues he had so I texted him (his number was on a mailing list I had) to thank him afterwards. he texted back saying he was delighted to meet me etc and would I like to grab a drink sometime. I replied enthusiastically and basically would like to meet and for him to get in touch at whenever. I kind of felt I put the ball back firmly in his court.

Fast forward about 10 days and have heard nothing. Don't want to waste energy over analyzing this. Do you think he was just being polite in saying about the drink etc? His text was very charming and complimentary. Felt we had chemistry but now thinking maybe he has a gf or is just like that with everyone i.e attentive and charming.

What would you do? Should I just forget this whole thing?

dan_d

Em I'm a girl, but yeah, I think you should probably forget it.
Honestly, if he's interested enough, he'll come back to you on it.
Better off to move on and see what else is out there.
Sorry:(

parker kent

As a guy, I'd love it if a girl straight out asked me out. No point playing games, if you like him, text him and ask him out. And not "sometime", suggest a night out too. Then at least you will know one way or the other.

If you like him and think he likes you, why forget about him? There could be a dozen different and reasonable reasons why he has not asked you out yet. He might have picked up your last message incorrectly and assumed you were going to reply with a date and time. Or maybe he is busy, maybe he has no credit, basically who knows? But all you can do, is text and say "how about we have that drink etc etc".

Aseth

I'm a girl too, sorry
Anyway, the amount of posts in which people ask: how long should I wait before calling/texting him/her is incredible... So maybe he is just following one of those ridiculous advises and he 'has to' wait 2 weeks before replying?
But in reality it's hard to tell. Maybe he gets it all the time and was being polite. I would not expect too much if I were you - because he either can't make his own decisions or he never intended to get back to you in a first place.

LegacyUser

Hi OP here again,

Thanks to those who replied esp Parker Kent. Your reply motivated me to text and he got back saying he hoped I would text and we are meeting this weekend weather permitting.
Thanks again for great advice.

whatsamsn

While ParkerKents advice is good. In situations like these, you read the facts and not assume things (like most situations in life) Facts are he has not replied back to you in 10 days. No one is that busy.

My gut says from him asking you out it sounded like he was into you. I would be thinking he has a girlfriend tho. Its either that or it was for an ego boost. Either way forgetting about him is the best way forward.

If you want to get your answer you can text him back. But expect a no reply or a reply accompanied with a fob off. Sorry op. But this happens alot.

parker kent

ophereagain wrote: »

Hi OP here again,

Thanks to those who replied esp Parker Kent. Your reply motivated me to text and he got back saying he hoped I would text and we are meeting this weekend weather permitting.
Thanks again for great advice.

If only I ever took my own advice :pac:

Hope it all goes well for you!