Of all the questions

Odysseus

I thought I'd share this one with you. I was making my way back home tonight from the shops when 2 kids in the estate stopped me. I know one to see about 12-14, their quest? "what happens when a girl gets a boner" I nearly creased myself, the poor chap left with a big smile when I explained what happened when a woman gets sexually excited. Be fcuk me, it was the one thing I wasn't expecting.

Chicks with dícks

chin_grin

Odysseus wrote: »

I thought I'd share this one with you. I was making my way back home tonight from the shops when 2 kids in the estate stopped me. I know one to see about 12-14, their quest? "what happens when a girl gets a boner" I nearly creased myself, the poor chap left with a big smile when I explained what happened when a woman gets sexually excited. Be fcuk me, it was the one thing I wasn't expecting.

So, do they or what?

alwaysadub

Sure they weren't just taking the piss in the hope they'd embarrass you?

cml387

Well now Odysseus,

from now on you'll be known by all the preteen boys

"Hey,he's the guy who KNOWS!

Odysseus

alwaysadub wrote: »

Sure they weren't just taking the piss in the hope they'd embarrass you?

Nah doubt it, my super psych powers and all.

Terry

What does happen?

Could be awkward if their parents find out about the conversation...

Odysseus

cml387 wrote: »

Well now Odysseus,

from now on you'll be known by all the preteen boys

"Hey,he's the guy who KNOWS!

That is the thing, they are a bit afaird of me, hence my suprise. All they know of me is I have a lot of motorbikes, and their parent's complain about seeing me heading off to hunt in combat kit with a rifle or shotgun on my back. I have a few friends up here who put me wide on it. Clearly I'm in the country, I would get very far in ballyfermot on my bike with a gun on my back.

Odysseus

Terry wrote: »

What does happen?

If you don't know by know terry, there is no point

alwaysadub

Odysseus wrote: »

That is the thing, they are a bit afaird of me, hence my suprise. All they know of me is I have a lot of motorbikes, and their parent's complain about seeing me heading off to hunt in combat kit with a rifle or shotgun on my back. I have a few friends up here who put me wide on it. Clearly I'm in the country, I would get very far in ballyfermot on my bike with a gun on my back.

You'd blend right in tbh :pac:

starbelgrade

I banged a chick in Thailand once who had a massive boner.

themadchef

Odysseus wrote: »

"what happens when a girl gets a boner" .

"You get shagged, repeatedly"

Woulda put the shíts up them :pac:

flahavaj

Odysseus wrote: »

I thought I'd share this one with you. I was making my way back home tonight from the shops when 2 kids in the estate stopped me. I know one to see about 12-14, their quest? "what happens when a girl gets a boner" I nearly creased myself, the poor chap left with a big smile when I explained what happened when a woman gets sexually excited. Be fcuk me, it was the one thing I wasn't expecting.

Pedo.

Sardonicat

Did you really think it was your place to enlighten a 12 year old on this?

Teacher Odysseus, leave those kids alone !!

Odysseus

Yes, if he had the balls to ask. Very much so

kowloon

Join me children, in my tinted window van of knowledge and understanding!

Jamiekelly

starbelgrade wrote: »

I banged a chick in Thailand once who had a massive boner.

All sorts of wrong images have been burned into my innocent little mind forever.
On the other hand, pics or gtfo!

blogga

cml387 wrote: »

Well now Odysseus,

from now on you'll be known by all the preteen boys

"Hey,he's the guy who KNOWS!

Or, perhaps worse...

Nevyn

Odysseus wrote: »

I thought I'd share this one with you. I was making my way back home tonight from the shops when 2 kids in the estate stopped me. I know one to see about 12-14, their quest? "what happens when a girl gets a boner" I nearly creased myself, the poor chap left with a big smile when I explained what happened when a woman gets sexually excited. Be fcuk me, it was the one thing I wasn't expecting.

Did you not use Wibb's patent pending expression of a "wide on"?
To explain how the erectile tissue in the vaginal walls get a rush of blood due do arousal and get stiff and make a gap inside and if that's not happening due to lack for foreplay or arousal it results in bleeding and bruising, which isn't to be desired,unless both people are into that sort of thing.

Odysseus

Thaedydal wrote: »

Did you not use Wibb's patent pending expression of a "wide on"?
To explain how the erectile tissue in the vaginal walls get a rush of blood due do arousal and get stiff and make a gap inside and if that's not happening due to lack for foreplay or arousal it results in bleeding and bruising, which isn't to be desired,unless both people are into that sort of thing.

Slightly different but the latter. Some of the things I have had to explain to adults in the course of my work made that very easy.

ScumLord

I think technically you sexually assaulted those kids minds.

Odysseus

ScumLord wrote: »

I think technically you sexually assaulted those kids minds.

I work with a lot of sexual abuse, so technically 1000s of miles away from it

Sardonicat

Odysseus wrote: »

I work with a lot of sexual abuse, so technically 1000s of miles away from it

If that truly is the case it is even more disturbing that you found it appropriate to tell a child who is a stranger to you and whose parents you don't know in a totally random way.

M5

Jamiekelly wrote: »

All sorts of wrong images have been burned into my innocent little mind forever.
On the other hand, pics or gtfo!

eh maybe spare us the pics

karlog

THE WORLD IS F*CKED!!!!

Gunsfortoys

Thaedydal wrote: »

Did you not use Wibb's patent pending expression of a "wide on"?
To explain how the erectile tissue in the vaginal walls get a rush of blood due do arousal and get stiff and make a gap inside and if that's not happening due to lack for foreplay or arousal it results in bleeding and bruising, which isn't to be desired,unless both people are into that sort of thing.

I would doubt they know what foreplay is.:pac:

Nevyn

Gunsfortoys wrote: »

I would doubt they know what foreplay is.:pac:

there is a certian juvinale male mindset where foreplay is what is needed to get a chick wet enough so you dont' need lube and aroused enough that she wont' say no when you go to stick in it her.

You'd be surprise how young certain males figure that out.

epgc3fyqirnbsx

Thaedydal wrote: »

there is a certian juvinale male mindset where foreplay is what is needed to get a chick wet enough so you dont' need lube and aroused enough that she wont' say no when you go to stick in it her.

You'd be surprise how young certain males figure that out.

most figure it out young. It can hurt to put your todger into hard places

OutlawPete

Sardonicat wrote: »

If that truly is the case it is even more disturbing that you found it appropriate to tell a child who is a stranger to you and whose parents you don't know in a totally random way.

That's a pretty loaded word there, shouldn't throw around so lightly.

Two young lads (most likely both teenagers or very almost) asked him a harmless enough question and I guess he tactfully answered it.

Would he have been better off acting all shamefully about it, and give the topic an air that it's something to be embarrassed or secretive about?

It's that attitude towards sex that hopefully the world is moving away from, and not before time too.

Gunsfortoys

Thaedydal wrote: »

there is a certian juvinale male mindset where foreplay is what is needed to get a chick wet enough so you dont' need lube and aroused enough that she wont' say no when you go to stick in it her.

You'd be surprise how young certain males figure that out.

Intriguing.

Wereas before they would have slathered KY jelly on their bits and lobbed it in, unconcerned with the females wishes. Interesting.

starbelgrade

OutlawPete wrote: »

That's a pretty loaded word there, shouldn't throw around so lightly.

Two young lads (most likely both teenagers or very almost) asked him a harmless enough question and I guess he tactfully answered it.

Would he have been better off acting all shamefully about it, and give the topic an air that it's something to be embarrassed or secretive about?

It's that attitude towards sex that hopefully the world is moving away from, and not before time too.

So what your saying is, in essence, is that he should have whipped out his lad, stroked it into an erect position & said...

"You see this, lads... this is a boner. The ladies can't get these".

Seems reasonable to me.

Sardonicat

What I mean is that, given that this guy claims to work with abuse survivors, he really should be more careful about engaging in sexual conversation with two kids (by his own estimation 12-14) who are not known to him, regardless of how tactful he did it or well intentioned it was meant.

He should know only too well the mechanisms of grooming. It really should not be encouraged for a kid that young to be getting sexual education from a complete (adult) stranger they know nothing about.

Fine, the op is alright, but the next guy he asks might not be.

Not to mention what the kid's parents would think.

I do find it hard to believe that someone who works with abuse survivors would do something like this. The OP is not the only person on here who works/worked with vulnerable people. This would not be regarded as good practice. The opposite, in fact. Therefore, I find his actions disturbing.

epgc3fyqirnbsx

Sardonicat wrote: »

What I mean is that, given that this guy claims to work with abuse survivors, he really should be more careful about engaging in sexual conversation with two kids (by his own estimation 12-14) who are not known to him, regardless of how tactful he did it or well intentioned it was meant.

He should know only too well the mechanisms of grooming. It really should not be encouraged for a kid that young to be getting sexual from a complete (adult) stranger they know nonthing about.

Fine, the op is alright, but the next guy he asks might not be.

Not to mention what the kid's parents would think.

I do find it hard to believe that someone who works with abuse survivors would do something like this. The OP is not the only person on here who works/worked with vulnerable people. This would not be regarded as good practice. The opposite, in fact. Therefore, I find his actions disturbing.

It's that tyoe of atttude that makes your average well intentioned male afraid to ask a lone child why they are crying tbh

starbelgrade

Sardonicat wrote: »

What I mean is that, given that this guy claims to work with abuse survivors, he really should be more careful about engaging in sexual conversation with two kids (by his own estimation 12-14) who are not known to him, regardless of how tactful he did it or well intentioned it was meant.

He should know only too well the mechanisms of grooming. It really should not be encouraged for a kid that young to be getting sexual from a complete (adult) stranger they know nonthing about.

Fine, the op is alright, but the next guy he asks might not be.

Not to mention what the kid's parents would think.

I do find it hard to believe that someone who works with abuse survivors would do something like this. The OP is not the only person on here who works/worked with vulnerable people. This would not be regarded as good practice. The opposite, in fact. Therefore, I find his actions disturbing.

There's PC and there is ridiculous.

Now, I like you as a poster, but that is taking it a bit too far towards the latter.

starbelgrade

Joselyn Sharp Spacewalk wrote: »

It's that tyoe of atttude that makes your average well intentioned male afraid to ask a lone child why they are crying tbh

"Why are you crying?"

"Because you put your wee wee in my poo poo".

Gunsfortoys

Sardonicat wrote: »

What I mean is that, given that this guy claims to work with abuse survivors, he really should be more careful about engaging in sexual conversation with two kids (by his own estimation 12-14) who are not known to him, regardless of how tactful he did it or well intentioned it was meant.

He should know only too well the mechanisms of grooming. It really should not be encouraged for a kid that young to be getting sexual from a complete (adult) stranger they know nonthing about.

Fine, the op is alright, but the next guy he asks might not be.

Not to mention what the kid's parents would think.

I do find it hard to believe that someone who works with abuse survivors would do something like this. The OP is not the only person on here who works/worked with vulnerable people. This would not be regarded as good practice. The opposite, in fact. Therefore, I find his actions disturbing.

That is a bit harsh.

The guy was educating them on what happens to a woman when sexually aroused. He wasn't bloody grooming them.

I think this shows a lack of education on the subject, THAT is disturbing and it should be taught better in our schools.

epgc3fyqirnbsx

starbelgrade wrote: »

"Why are you crying?"

"Because you put your wee wee in my poo poo".

Nevyn

Gunsfortoys wrote: »

Intriguing.

Wereas before they would have slathered KY jelly on their bits and lobbed it in, unconcerned with the females wishes. Interesting.

Oh KY that is posh, back when I was a 12 - 14 year old it would have been spit :P

El Horseboxo

Odysseus wrote: »

"what happens when a girl gets a boner"

Depends on the girl. I once had one ask me to jackhammer her.

Gunsfortoys

Thaedydal wrote: »

Oh KY that is posh, back when I was a 12 - 14 year old it would have been spit :P

Heh yeah, getting it is tough though.

I went to a chemist the other day and asked for some. The assistant says, "we don't sell it have you tried boots?" I said, "love, I want to slide in not ****ing march in:cool:".

Serious education needed.:rolleyes:

Spit??? Kinky...

TouchingVirus

Sardonicat wrote: »

If that truly is the case it is even more disturbing that you found it appropriate to tell a child who is a stranger to you and whose parents you don't know in a totally random way.

Not quite how I'd interpret the situation. He didn't go around and say "Hey kids, guess what happens when a women gets aroused. Let me tell you a story". He answered a question, it was harmless.

I agree with starbelgrade, this POV is a bit alien to me, bordering on ridiculous

OutlawPete

Sardonicat wrote: »

What I mean is that, given that this guy claims to work with abuse survivors ..

He didn't "claim" to work with abuse survivors.

He said he worked with abuse survivors.

That's twice you have insinuated the user might not be telling the truth, just why - I have no idea. You might think I am being pedantic here, but you are using totally inappropriate words for no obvious reason.

Sardonicat wrote: »

..he really should be more careful about engaging in sexual conversation with two kids (by his own estimation 12-14) who are not known to him, regardless of how tactful he did it or well intentioned it was meant.

How do you know he wasn't careful?

Sardonicat wrote: »

He should know only too well the mechanisms of grooming.

Saying 'Hello' to children is also a 'mechanism of grooming' is it not? You can't avoid every action that paedophiles utilize in the process of 'grooming' - life has to be lived.

Sardonicat wrote: »

Fine, the op is alright, but the next guy he asks might not be.

Exactly and so maybe that was one of the reasons he answered the question, so as to prevent them going on to ask other adults and perhaps hitting on one that wouldn't necessarily be as pure in heart as the OP clearly is.

What were his options?

'Go home and ask your parents' ..

We all know that's never going to happen.

Sardonicat wrote: »

I do find it hard to believe that someone who works with abuse survivors would do something like this. The OP is not the only person on here who works/worked with vulnerable people. This would not be regarded as good practice. The opposite, in fact. Therefore, I find his actions disturbing.

There is nothing "disturbing" about it, it's just sex and your attitude stinks.

It's the attitude that has people in this country squirming on sofas whenever someone gets kissed on the TV, just because their parents are in the same room. It's the same attitude has kids that do get abused, keep it to themselves because they pick up from adults that sex is not something that can be openly discussed.

Paedophiles loved that attitude down the years, as they could use it to their advantage, knowing that chances are, it's something kids will just keep to themselves.

The more open society is about sex and sexuality, the less pervasive that attitude will be and that can only ever be a good thing, despite what you think.

Sardonicat

OK, I just tried to post upo a reply and it disapeared.

Anyway, I'm unregged, but I feel strongly about this so I'm gonna post it anyway.

When I was 8 I asked an adult a question of a sexual nature and his respnse was not quite so well meaning and harmless as the op's. I did not post that for sympathy, but to illustrate my point. Believe it or not, a lot of abuse is intiated like this.

At no point in my post did I suggest that the OP was grooming these boys. Nowhere did I state that. As a mental health professional, he should know that the best practice is to encourage children to ask questions from adults they know and trust (not always a safeguard, saddly) or to be unafraid to raise questions in sex education class (if they are not being held to ransom by an ott parents board who won't allow it in the school).

I'm all for kids being informed, just by the right people.

Nevyn

Gunsfortoys wrote: »

Spit??? Kinky...

Well it depends on the reasoning and awareness behind the act.

Sardonicat

OutlawPete wrote: »

He didn't "claim" to work with abuse survivors.

He said he worked with abuse survivors.

That's twice you have insinuated the user might not be telling the truth, just why - I have no idea. You might think I am being pedantic here, but you are using totally inappropriate words for no obvious reason.



How do you know he wasn't careful?



Saying 'Hello' to children is also a 'mechanism of grooming' is it not? You can't avoid every action that paedophiles utilize in the process of 'grooming' - life has to be lived.



Exactly and so maybe that was one of the reasons he answered the question, so as to prevent them going on to ask other adults and perhaps hitting on one that wouldn't necessarily be as pure in heart as the OP clearly is.

What were his options?

'Go home and ask your parents' ..

We all know that's never going to happen.



There is nothing "disturbing" about it, it's just sex and your attitude stinks.

It's the attitude that has people in this country squirming on sofas whenever someone gets kissed on the TV, just because their parents are in the same room. It's the same attitude has kids that do get abused, keep it to themselves because they pick up from adults that sex is not something that can be openly discussed.

Paedophiles loved that attitude down the years, as they could use it to their advantage, knowing that chances are, it's something kids will just keep to themselves.

The more open society is about sex and sexuality, the less pervasive that attitude will be and that can only ever be a good thing, despite what you think.

Thanks, as an abuse survivor I truly appreciate that post.

OutlawPete

Sardonicat wrote: »

When I was 8 I asked an adult a question of a sexual nature and his respnse was not quite so well meaning and harmless as the op's. I did not post that for sympathy, but to illustrate my point.

Your illustrating a moot point.

These lads were not 8 or anything like it.

Sardonicat wrote: »

Thanks, as an abuse survivor I truly appreciate that post.

Oh stop making this personal.

My post was referring to your continuing to use the word "disturbing" with regards to the OP's situation and that is all.

Sardonicat

How is it moot? I asked a question about sex of an adult and got abused for my efforts. That happens to 14 year olds too.

TouchingVirus

OutlawPete wrote: »

My post was referring to your continuing to use the word "distributing" with regards to the OP's situation and that is all.

He means disturbing :cool:

OutlawPete

Sardonicat wrote: »

How is it moot? I asked a question about sex of an adult and got abused for my efforts. That happens to 14 year olds too.

It's a moot point because what is suitable to say to a 8 year old and what is suitable to say to a 14 year old, are two different things.

If the OP had of started this thread about two eight years olds, do you really think he would have received the same replies?

I can tell you from me he wouldn't have anyway.