no social circle, no direct friends

LegacyUser

Lads i need someone to talk to. Im not depressed but i understand the situation i am in.
I love socialisng and am outgoing but dont get the chance anymore to go out because i have no friends to go out with usually. How can i get out of this rut before xmas becuse its gonna get me down if i dont do anything about it soon. I dont mind my own company but i wouldnt head out on my own. Any one have any advice

SparkyTech

Do you have any interest/hobby or sports that you could join in a group setting? Judo, Kick-boxing, Reading, Art, Karate, Yoga, Running Clubs, Chess....anything really. Join as many of these clubs as you want, then focus on the ones you enjoy the most. You'll meet like minded folks who share the same interest you do and meet a few new friends along the way! Main thing is to throw yourself in the deep end, get out there and go for it.

Best of luck

LegacyUser

SparkyTech wrote: »

Do you have any interest/hobby or sports that you could join in a group setting? Judo, Kick-boxing, Reading, Art, Karate, Yoga, Running Clubs, Chess....anything really. Join as many of these clubs as you want, then focus on the ones you enjoy the most. You'll meet like minded folks who share the same interest you do and meet a few new friends along the way! Main thing is to throw yourself in the deep end, get out there and go for it.

Best of luck

Thanks for the advice, i have started looking into a few goups that interest me but my problem is i have seen this build up gradually as people move in differant directions. I consciously make an effort to socialise with people but it seems like it has got me no where in the last few years. I cant really get advice from anyone as i have a pretty strong personality and would not tell anyone this face to face. All i can do is to keep trying to be sociable but i am very conscious of coming across as needy. Everyone that knows me would not suspect that i feel like this and i wouldnt tell them as i dont think it would help in any way. All i can do is try i suppose

poisonated

I have never been to a boards beers but I hear good things about them. These are organised every so often so you could go to one of them. Other than that, as a previous poster said, you could join a club.

alanna22

I'm in pretty much the same situation. don't really have any advice, put yourself out there do something you enjoy and just try to meet new people. I'll be taking the advice you hopefully get too

Dave!

You interested in science and stuff?

You might meet some good people here:

http://www.facebook.com/event.php?eid=131332093590787

mee_too29

feeling lonely wrote: »

Lads i need someone to talk to. Im not depressed but i understand the situation i am in.
I love socialisng and am outgoing but dont get the chance anymore to go out because i have no friends to go out with usually. How can i get out of this rut before xmas becuse its gonna get me down if i dont do anything about it soon. I dont mind my own company but i wouldnt head out on my own. Any one have any advice

It's easy for people to say "join a group" - but trying to choose one that will get you the social life etc that your're looking for can be difficult. Any improvments since you posted??

LegacyUser

I feel exactly the same and saying join a group is a lot harder done.. goodluck and i hope it works out for you and maybe me in the future ha ..