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LegacyUser

Right I know I am going to get flamed here so don't bother as have got it from everyone already and still getting it. Sorry if this is long as well.........

Around this time last year I met a wonderful woman who I could not believe would have any interest in me. I was still married at the time but was living seperately in the family home and living two seperate lives. This woman I met I was scared to tell her all my bad stuff but stupidly decided to only tell a bit as being selfish I did not want to loose her. I left my family to be with her which was a mistake as I rushed head first and to be honest I don't think she was ready either to have both of us living under the one roof. We broke up a few times over me not being truthful and cause I kept all my problems to myself as did not want to burden her with things. My wife messed me around when I wanted to see the kids and sent me horrible texts about my then girlfriend and stalked me on the internet etc. Alot of this I kept from my then girlfriend cause I felt it was my problem and not hers. Eventually we broke up in May/June for good cause i wrote a horrible comment on a social network site reffering to her and something I am not proud of and can never forget and would do anything to fix it.

We have remained friends on and off since and I have always been there when she was in need for anything and I mean anything as I feel responsible for what I turned her into and destroyed her life, if she texts/rings me with any problem I help her out and look for nothing in return.

My problem is I still love this woman and would cut of my right arm to have her back but she has told me she is afraid of getting hurt again and I see where she is coming from. I just feel so at loss without her, I have met other women but have no interest in them and to be honest would rather be on my own then be with anyone else. I have tried blocking her out of my life but so many things remind me of her. She is such a great woman with a heart of gold and is so good to my youngest daughter.

OH just to say my wife soon to be ex has a new bloke in her life and now talks to me and lets me see the kids alot more cause she has all she wants now, a bloke that loves her and as she says a few quid as well in his pocket.

I just want my ex girlfriend back but just don't know what to do as she is the best but at the time we got together I had alot going on and thought I could handle it at the time but could not but now I can but its probably too late

Thanks

DangerMouse27

Yeah your absolutley right..totally flamed and right you should be.
The social network jibe is so out of order its not funny, and you dont seem to have complaints that she wont forget that. Thats immediate dismissal right there. Think it a lesson in how to proceed with future troubles,yes its cost you this one but learn from it and with the next girl,things will be better.
She shouldnt take you back,not on her life. And to leave your wife and kids for her...jeez no wonder your still getting it.

Distorted

I think its called karma. I will try not to flame you as no doubt you've heard it before but a lot of it seems to stem from your attitude to things and other people. You seem to think of no-one but yourself. For instance, you only say it was the wrong time to leave your wife and kids because your girlfriend wasn't ready for you to move in together. No mention of your wife and kids there. You want your girlfriend back but never mention what she might want. You accuse your wife of messing you around when its pretty obvious that you were the one doing the messing around. And you accuse her of stalking you - thats your wife, the mother of your children - did it ever occur to you that she was just as puzzled as your girlfriend as to what was going on and was simply trying to find out, so she could move forwards?

Maybe if you become a less selfish person you will become more attractive to other people too? But only if the motivation is right. And you need to get into the habit of telling the truth and not lieing to people.

I am a friend

You seem to be a bit manic. you are running from A to B and then back to A and then over to B for a bit and then sitting half way between A and B....

When are you going to settle, rest and deal with the break up of your marriage.. You have lied to this girl, belittled her on a public forum and also cheated on your wife with her... I dont blame her for not wanting to trust you.

But this is about you and you need to settle and get peace of mind, stop chasing women and just get back on an even keel. Until then, you wont be able to have any kind of a successful relationship - best of luck.

LegacyUser

Yup your all right and only myself to blame, its taken me long enough to see the light and to be honest after today don't want my ex back even if she asked me as things have come to light from others that I never knew but know now. I get on well with my wife now better than I ever have and just sorting out the finincial side of things and custody and all of thsi is more important now than a bit of young imature skirt etc. Thanks all

LighterGuy

You made mistakes op. Thats life. No one is perfect.

Just remember, we dont know the outcome of the choices we take in situations. Sadly alot of the choices you did above didnt work out and backfired.

We cant go back. So just try and move forward. In fact learn from this.