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  • 22-11-2010 2:57pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    The OH and I have been going through a rough patch the last week or so , we both went out saturday night with our friends, we had a row and went our seperate ways, he made a point of chatting up a girl in front of me etc in the nightclub i just walked away, then sunday i found out he asked this girl for her number.. i havent said anything to him about it.. since saturday he has said he was being an idiot and it was all bull **** lots of drink envolved etc, but this is just starting to grate on me.. why ask her for her number? i just dont know what to think anymore..

    opinions appreciated...


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    its wrecking my head.. anyone...... :(


  • #3
    Silverfish
    Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 16,698 Mod ✭✭✭✭Silverfish


    How long are you together?

    It was a bit of a childish thing to do, but maybe it was just down to the drink and being angry?

    Has he texted or phoned this girl at all?


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    just over 3 and a half years.. he text asking who's this, and she replied its ****** you asked me for my number last night. he then said " last night was mad anything could have happened, then asked her how was her night. i dont know after that.. i just know if the tables were turned there would be war.. a few men asked for my number the same night but i just said i have a boyfriend i had no intention alcohol or not! thats why im having my doubts...

    thanks for the reply x


  • #5
    Pebbles!
    Closed Accounts Posts: 206 ✭✭Pebbles!


    Is the rough patch just like a minor row???He could have just been trying to make you jealous by chatting her up. He could have asked for her number thinking that ye may be over.

    I know if that was me it would drive me demented thinking about it, he should not have a want to get another girls number. If this is genuinely all harmless and down to the drink why did he then text her the next morning, should he not have just left well enough alone although he could just not remember.

    Ask him about it, tell him how it hurt you and that you need to be able to trust him...every time he gets a message you'l think "Is that her?" and paranoia can ruin a relationship quicker than cheating would. Make sure you know that there is no more contact with this girl.


  • #6
    Canluum
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 189 ✭✭Canluum


    Asking for numbers can just be a way to charge yourself up a little, to re-affirm in your mind that you're a man with options and a sexuality that women recognize. Factor in alcohol, riled emotions and the fact he clearly had no intention of following it through, AND that he apologised... I don't see the big deal.

    Apart from two things:

    -doing it in front of you is disrespectful and not on.

    -is he continuing to text her? Also not on.


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