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do i need councelling

  • 09-11-2010 10:57am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    hi Id just like your opinion please,
    I'm woman in my 30's and ive a normal happy life now, but i had a horrible childhood and past till i left home and needless to say i was betrayed by those who should have loved me and cared for me.
    but i picked up my pieces and built a normal life for myself forgetting about all my family except my sister who went through the same as me she now has councelling to deal with the past as she actually became an alcoholic over it, i prefer not to talk/think/remember my past. my parents havent even seen my kids, however somtimes it boils up and i feel so angry at my mother for betraying me so badly i cant accept how she could care so little for her children....

    Anyway the other day my sister said if i dont deal with my past it will affect me in some way eg i will become an alcoholic or somthing. she thinks i need counceling to talk it out. I cant even talk to my husband about the past, as I only have questions like how could she? etc how could a counceller help me? Sorry if this doesnt make sense but I dont know if burying the past is a better thing to do or not?


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  • #2
    astra2000
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    Hi op I am sorry that you and your sister had such a horrible childhood its so unfair that you had to go through that.
    It is sad that your sister turned to drink to try and blot out her childhood but great that she has managed to come out the other side. Councelling has obviously worked for her.
    Only you can decide if councelling is for you just because this helped your sister it does not mean that it is right for you. Some people need to talk and be listened to and guided in order to sort out their problems others like your selves just put it behind them and move on and are able to make happy lives for themselves.
    I would be of the opinion that if you have been able to make a happy life for yourself and the past does not impact on you now, you should leave well enough alone, however if at some stage in your future it does start to impact on your life in a negative way then you could consider councelling.
    You and your sister have different ways of dealing with the past and she needs to realise that what has been right and necessary for her maynot be for you. Make a decision on what feels right for you now and continue on enjoying your life you deserve it. Best of luck in whatever you choose.


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