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  • Administrators, Politics Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 25,871 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭ Neyite

    I'm very sorry for your loss Sardonicat.

  • Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 4,246 Mod ✭✭✭✭ HildaOgdenx

    I'm so sorry for your loss @Sardonicat

    May he rest in peace. Mind yourself.

  • Registered Users Posts: 120 ✭✭ Brixton Ambitious Registration

    So for all this time of being told how horrible I am...when Ive been away from you, it's strange how peoples views of me are so different from yours...the other day someone told me that I'm a very 'soft' person in how I come across and they didn't mean it as an insult. I was also told that I'm very 'calm' and collected. Another person randomly told me 'you're lovely' out of nowhere and they said it twice to make sure I heard them. So, thanks for all the critique while I've known you but I'll make sure to get a second opinion.

  • Registered Users Posts: 13,016 ✭✭✭✭ Deja Boo


    Putting a "happy" before that would be entirely laughable. So why must I continue to recall such inconsequential dates?

  • Registered Users Posts: 21 bannedboyband

    Dear Randomers online and in person I've encountered.

    Leave the bitterness go and you will be truly happy and free.


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  • Registered Users Posts: 3,316 ✭✭✭ Airyfairy12

    Everytime we hang out, which is rare now, youre not very 'present', its like you dont want to be there, you stay for half an hour, rush me and get annoyed with me like im forcing you to be there, when I ask you if everythings ok or point out that you seem a bit on edge, you come up with some random reason for why youre behaving that way. You subtly belittle me by talking over me, making everything I say about you & I find myself rushing to finish sentences to point were im stumbling over my words because you seem agitated & bored when I talk about myself or something going on in my life. Youre always so self absorbed in our interactions & generally quite mean and its very draining, I leave your company feeling worse than I did before meeting up with you and friendships shouldnt consistently leave you feeling like that. You just make no effort at all & im remembering now why I stopped making time for you all those years ago & why you have no other friends. If youre annoyed at someone whose been nothing but nice to you, it's you thats the problem so meeting up and sitting there in a bad mood and putting that on me like ive done something wrong isnt how I want to spend an afternoon or a night out & its not something I can talk to you about because you'll make yourself out to be victim. Im pulling back from the friendship now, its not worth my effort or time.

  • Registered Users Posts: 120 ✭✭ Brixton Ambitious Registration

    Don't take me for granted to be or use me for your fun again ..I have my own mind and you may have persuaded me somewhat but you didn't create me...I àlwàys was who I am and in general I'm proud of how I handled difficult situations with you,. you probably wouldn't understand what I'm saying but anyhow.,

  • Registered Users Posts: 533 ✭✭✭ flowerchild

    Ages ago, when I was deep in connection with you, I went on an interstate trip. I stayed in a regional location, messaging you often. It was a strange, strange experience. I had lunch and then walked back to my room, intending to have a swim. I saw a guy walking up towards me on the other side of the small road. For some reason he caught my eye - maybe it was the beard. I began to feel lightheaded but wasn’t sure why and kept on going. I changed into my swimsuit and got into the pool, which was small, deep and shatteringly cold. By that stage I felt very peculiar. I barely made it out of the pool and back to my room. I think I was very lucky to make it. Then everything was both swirly and out. I could swear there were several men in the room, doing things to me. I don’t remember dinner and I felt very sore and odd as I headed off to do my work the next day. I’ve wondered since then what exactly happened, and who arranged it. It has stayed with me as a very unpleasant almost memory. If you don’t remember it, did something bad still happen? Yes, I definitely think so. The body keeps the score.

  • Registered Users Posts: 691 ✭✭✭ okiss

    Dear x,

    So I got a message from you yesterday. It was the 1st time I had heard from you in a while. You told me why you had not been in contact with me.

    We lost contact with each other for a few years due to various things. You got back in contact with me not long before covid and we met up a few months ago. I knew you wanted to get into a friends with benefits situation with me. We had some fun that night and you were chatting and sex texting me since then. I have noticed that this is happening less.

    So we are back to you I am so busy and I will send you a message if and when I feel like it.

    The truth is that I feel sorry for how things turned out for you. I remember the person you once were and how you we were both their for each other in the past. I remember all the good times and how we cheered each other up and supported each other in the past. Now we are in this position and I know your not happy with me because of the no fwb situation. You made a decision a few years ago to turn me down for a relationship and moved on to get z pregant within a year of meeting her. You have been living with her and your child this past few years. So your not in a position to offer me a relationship. So I decided its a bad idea for us to get into a fwb situation. Anyhow I have my own life to lead and plans for my future.

    Along with this what you told me in you last message I am not supprised at. You have been dealing with certain issues over the past few years and they are getting worse because you refuse to make changes. I warned you about this a few years ago and so did several other people but you kept doing what you always did. For you own sake you need to make changes because your life is going to get worse for you if you don't.

    I have learned that you cant make people change unless they are willing to listen, want to change themselves and are willing to put in a bit of work in order to get where they want to. So I have decided that I will contact you and try to chat about things. I am not going to lecture you because I think you will just close down on me altogether if I do that and anyhow your an adult not a child so you should be aware of what you need to do now.

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  • Registered Users Posts: 120 ✭✭ Brixton Ambitious Registration

    Try not to lose your humanity...and you and your friends were right...we are not equal.

  • Registered Users Posts: 547 ✭✭✭ LilacNails


    What was it that changed ur mind or were u just not genuine. Im actually gutted, but I'll get over it.