Cross dressing

outdoorsygirl

My best gf met a guy a few weeks back and she thought he was wonderful. Lovey, gentle, humourous, generous, good laugh.
I met him once briefly with her.
She phoned me this morning very upset.
They were out for a meal last night.
He drove her home and whilst having a coffee in her apartment informed her he is a cross dresser. He then opened his pants to reveal red satin panties and stockings.
She was quite disgusted and asked him to leave which he did.
He said he had been xdressing for a number of years now.
She likes him but feels there is an overriding desire on his part to persist with sdressing. He suggested she might go shopping with him for underwear.
Should she continue with him or call it a day?

Oryx

Point one: There is nothing wrong with cross dressing.

Point two: Its alright to not want to be with someone who does cross dress, its the same having differences over any other interest you dont share.

If your friend likes the guy, then she has to accept his cross dressing as part of him. If she cant then she cant go out with him.

IrishEyes19

Exactly what Oryx said above. Cross dressing is an accepted norm in todays society. But if your friend feels she will feel awkward or resentful towards it throughout the relationship she should break it off. Good relationships are built on trust and acceptance of each other. It cant work if she doesn't support something which is clearly part of him and I doubt he will abandon it for the sake of a relationship.

Chicago Chick

Oryx wrote: »

Point one: There is nothing wrong with cross dressing.

Point two: Its alright to not want to be with someone who does cross dress, its the same having differences over any other interest you dont share.

If your friend likes the guy, then she has to accept his cross dressing as part of him. If she cant then she cant go out with him.

I agree with all that Oryx has said here above. If your friend is prepared to accept this man as he is then their relationship may have a chance. If she can not accept him as he is then it is best to end it as it is unfair to expect him to change.

silkworm53

There's nothing wrong with cross dressing.
Many men are turned on by it - probably some genetic thing where they are probably part woman rather than a 100% man.
Lots of women like to play rugby, play GAA football and camogie, rock climb or join the Army - they are bit masculine in that way too.
Sexually some women like to be dominant or submissive - some women like to be slapped while other women would put on a strap on and tie a man up. It all depends because there is no real box you can put people into.
A little skinny squeaky guy with glasses might be lady killer and a big hairy lumberjack might be gay.
So there's nothing wrong with this guy at all.
She should only be worried if he has duct tape, a rope, cuffs, pliers, hacksaw and shovel in this car boot and he goes for weekends away that correspond with the disappearance of college girls.
Then she would have a right to be worried.:D
You should tell her to give him a chance and just deal with his fetish and maybe she could join in for the craic.

dory

I would agree, crossdressing isn't too unusal. It's up to your friend whether or not she can live with it. If not, then they're just not well suited.

LegacyUser

This is not strange, its just a kink, she should not see this nice and honest man again as the first thing she did was get on to the phone to her best friend and divulge an obvious private thing to her without properly thinking or pondering it in private so that something that is normaly shared between two people can remain in the confines of two people until she has discussed with this man if he minded other people knowing his business, your freind lacks loyalty, compassion and strenght.

LegacyUser

The manner in which he revealed this "little secret" would easily shock most normal people, i mean what girl expects to see a guy whip off his jeans and have ladies undies on!!

Cross dressing is ok when ther other partner is accepting of it.. otherwise it can be a deal breaker..

LighterGuy

- If someone wants to cross-dress? hey what ever floats their boat. Its a persons choice. Which you can respect.

- How he showed her? Yes, would shock alot of people. Far better ways to reveal certain things like that.

- Should she continue or call it a day? As much as its his choice to be interested in cross-dressing. Its also a persons choice to be turned off by it. It works both ways. So its her choice. Doesnt make her a b*tch is she is turned off and doesnt want to continue.