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Play it hard/soft/not at all

  • 03-11-2010 2:42am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Ok the story starts out pretty standard. I met a cool girl at a bar, got her number. I then went out with her for a coffee, things went ok, we were both a little "proper" (could have used a real drink) but we agreed to meet again.

    I know this girl is pretty busy, she's gone back to college and works part time. She postponed our 2nd "date" and said maybe the following week. The following week she then had exams and says she's up to her eyeballs for the next fortnight and maybe we can meet up when hopefully things calm down.

    2 weeks have passed. What should I do?
    Obviously she isn't that into me as she would have just made some permanent excuse (don't want to see anyone right now etc etc) but 3 weeks have passed since we went for a coffee. Should I
    a) Casually ask how exams went and if she's up for that drink now
    b) Stop faffing about and just go straight in with "Listen I like you, I think you're fun and want to take you out some evening"
    c) Just drop it, 3 weeks is too long.


Comments

  • #2
    silkworm53
    Closed Accounts Posts: 170 ✭✭silkworm53


    Option A is the best.
    As far as she is concerned the coffee was just a coffee.
    For the moment you are just friends so if you want it to become more than friends take up where you left off.
    When she tells you how she is and how she is getting on then suggest a date - drink, cinema, whatever - and she'll probably meet up with you.
    Option B - if you come out with it and tell her you like her and have all these feelings for her having not meet her for two weeks it would make her very uncomfortable.
    Option C - if she met you for a coffee last time, she can be persuaded to meet you again.
    She's a busy girl and seems nice and a bit shy but most women are anyway.
    You seem afraid of her and afraid of what can go wrong.
    Maybe last time that made her uncomfortable?
    You need to relax and go with the flow. It's no big deal.
    Best of luck.


  • #3
    *Lees*
    Closed Accounts Posts: 491 ✭✭*Lees*


    I'm basing this on my own personal experience, obviously everyone is different but here's my take on the matter!
    She said yes to seeing you again because she thinks your nice and would probably meet up with you again for coffee and a chat or whatever but she is not very interested in you romantically, if she was she would have made time to see you or even dropped a few texts here and there to let you know she is still interested and is just really busy.
    By all means text her, ask her how the exams went etc and maybe she might see you again and something might develop, but in my opinion if the interest isn't there from day 1 it's not worth the effort.
    Good luck :)


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