So confused

LegacyUser

I dont really kno where to start but il try keep it short and sweet! My other half and i have been together for 6 years, we are happy. I love him to bits and he is my best friend and i would be completly lost without him. however a couple of months ago he asked me to marry him, my first reaction was no. I had it said before i even thought about it! Since then ive been questioning our relationship, i always imagined him asking the question and me being delighted but I cant marry him. I dont tink its the commitment thing, I just feel like there is something missing!

Obviously we have talked about it since and he has asked me again but is it not sup to be the easiest answered question ever especially after 6 years?! Im just so confused, I dont know wat i want. I can admit that im not happy in other aspects of my liife, like work, family situation and other relationships with friends!

Any opinions wud be welcome?!

Virgil°

Even though you rushed an answer, in enormous life changing situations like these, ive often found that ones first reaction is the right one. In terms of getting married a lot
of the married couples i know have told me loosely the same thing. Its that you know the answer LOOOOONG before the question is asked

I guess the question i would ask is " Can you see yourself in,and would you be happy to stay in, a loving relationship with this man for the rest of your days?".
That to me would be more important than marraige.
Maybe getting married isn't for you? Its not a one size fits all.As long as your happy in your current relationship (good sex life, communication etc....)maybe theres no need to change?

LegacyUser

I love him to bits

he is my best friend

i would be completly lost without him.

I just feel like there is something missing

are you sexually attracted to him? or has it just become a very deep friendship?

Virgil°

lieta wrote: »

are you sexually attracted to him? or has it just become a very deep friendship?

This is also quite an important question.