Doctor thinks i am depressed

LegacyUser

I've been really run down lately, went to the doctor today and he thinks I am depressed...I got chatting to him and I think he could be right. I went through a bad breakup in january,I was completely knocked by it and it really destroyed me for a while. I thought I had it under control but after talking to him I'm not so sure.. I know I haven't been happy since we broke up ( not in the sense that I want t go back I am better off out of it) but I think that the relationship dragged me down to the point where i can't get back up... I go to work, I see friends I get on with my life but I am not happy in myself or in anything and I don't really remember the last time I was.I think I just try to convince myself that i'm fine because i don't like the idea of giving in and not being in control..I don't want to go anywhere near antidepressants but he did suggest councelling. i dunno is it worthwhile at all seems a bit self indulgent or something whinging about my problems to some stranger ... just wondering if anyone has done it and is it worthwhile.

Little Miss Lady

Hi Op,

First of all I'd like to recommend a really good book called A day of Hope by Gareth O' Callaghan. I read it today and thought it was really good and gives a great insight to depression and how it makes you feel so tired.

In my own experience I have gone to counsellors and have to say that I felt that they were worthwhile. You get to talk about anything and I mean anything that it troubling you or on your mind to an objective person who has no involvement or bias opinion..
Sometimes it feels liberating to talk about all that's bothering you and then know that you can go home and not have to worry about will the person tell anyone but yet you get to release everything that's dragging you down and making you feel heavy and tired..

I hope that helps,
best of luck with the recovery

Princess Peach

I was the same, just thought I was sick and when I told my doctor my symptoms it became clear I had been depressed for a long time. Did you talk to your doctor about antidepressants? I was fairly wary of them, just make sure you have all the facts from your doctor before you make the decision not to take them. And try counselling, what have you got to lose really? I tried it and didn't like it at first, but I went back after a few months to a new councilor and it worked really well for me. May not be for everyone, but try it and see, and if you don't like it after a few sessions, or can't find a good councilor for you then talk to your doctor about other options.

LegacyUser

Hi OP,

Was in the same situation mysled,broke up with the bf and at first felt fine, was keeping busy etc. Few months later was really down, couldn't get out of bed, just felt sad so decided to go the doc as I was a bit scared of some thoughts I had. Doc I went to was brilliant, he specialies in mental health so he really understood what I was thinking and feeling. I decided to go on anti depressants for a few months as I don't think counselling is for me and I have to say Its the first time I feel like myself in about two years. I still think about the ex a bot but I feel a lot more content in my life where before I went to the doc I just didn't feel like anything i did was worthwhile.I do find it weird how you know a relationship is not good for you but yet when it ends it can really affect your health.

hope you feel better soon x

LegacyUser

Hi, OP here,

Thank you for the replies. I went back to my doctor after having a few days to think and got some numbers from him so am going to make the call on Monday. I do think maybe counselling is a step in the right direction because I'm doing myself no favours denying that i'm hurting. My doctor said something to me the other day and it really hit a nerve, i'm not actually LIVING ... like i get up I go to work, I go out, etc.. on the surface I look like i'm getting on with things but underneath it I'm not happy at all, I'm just ploughing along hoping that it will pass and I'll feel ok again. I am really angry at myself letting my ex get to me so much because he hurt me and I hate that I am still letting him drag me down when i know getting away from him was best decision I made... I think perhaps there is underlying issues and he is just what tipped me over and that is why I am still torturing myself over eveything. Anyway I think this is the first positive decision I've made so fingers crossed it helps in some way ...

Thanks again, I appreciate the support and comments
xX