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  • 28-10-2010 12:42am
    #1
    shortys
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2 ✭


    Hi guys, im 19 and im from dublin, i just started college this september but you guys dont wanna know about that. basically i like this girl, but the problem is shes my best friend, we used to me kinda together about 2 years ago when we were young. but since ive meet her that first time ive grown to like her more and more, but the more i liked her, the better friends i became with her.
    2 years later and were best friends now. the topic of us has come up in the past and at one point i knew she did want to get together but if things went bad she didnt wanna lose me outta her life forever. i told her that wouldnt happen but she said she didnt want to take the risk. since then the topic has come up that i liked her, and she didnt like me back and almost gets annoyed that 2 years later i still like her. but i dont just like her, i love her. i could feel like the biggest loada **** in the world and just seeing her smile makes me the happiest person in the world. we get into fights all the time, buts it cause i over react over stuff she did when shes drunk and if i didnt love her i wouldnt care half as much. i wanna just tell her that i love her, and i know that she doesnt love me back, i just wanna let her know, and all i want is for her to be happy, and if thats someone else and shes happy, then im happy. no guy deserves her though, not even me. i just dunno what to do, any suggestions would be much appreciated. thanks :)


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  • #2
    Mackman
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,810 ✭✭✭Mackman


    Welcome to the friend zone. Its a tough one OP. If she says that she doesnt like you (that way), and doesnt want to get together. Well then there's your answer.
    Unrequited love is a horrible and great thing all at once, but im afraid, from what you've said, you'll just have to get over her. It'll take time but it will happen.


  • #3
    chainsaws
    Closed Accounts Posts: 103 ✭✭chainsaws


    Hi OP

    Stop being friends with her, stop speaking to her and cut off all contact with her. If you see her and she wants to know why you don't want to know her, tell her to get lost and tell her you refuse to follow her around like a lost puppy.
    Go out with your other friends, go to pubs or nightclubs and start meeting other women and forget about her.


  • #4
    Beruthiel
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 42,362 Mod ✭✭✭✭Beruthiel


    chainsaws wrote: »

    Stop being friends with her, stop speaking to her and cut off all contact with her. If you see her and she wants to know why you don't want to know her, tell her to get lost and tell her you refuse to follow her around like a lost puppy.
    Go out with your other friends, go to pubs or nightclubs and start meeting other women and forget about her.

    That might seem harsh, but it's what I would also suggest.
    If she is not into you and you are in love with her, how are you expected to move on with your life and find someone to love you back if all you are doing is following her around?
    While you continue to wish for something that will never happen, your life and potential opportunities are passing you by.
    You will not get over her until you break all contact.


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Beruthiel wrote: »
    That might seem harsh, but it's what I would also suggest.
    If she is not into you and you are in love with her, how are you expected to move on with your life and find someone to love you back if all you are doing is following her around?
    While you continue to wish for something that will never happen, your life and potential opportunities are passing you by.
    You will not get over her until you break all contact.

    What??? That's riddiculous sorry!!! But she doesnt deserve to be ignored and dropped because she no longer has feelings for this guy. As he said, that was two years ago and feelings change all the time!! If she's his best friend, how do you up it and walk away. That's the most selfish advice I have ever read in my life.

    How will she feel when she loses her best friend? OP, tell her the absolute truth and fair enough if she rejects it, perhaps then explain how hard the friendship is to maintain when you have these feelings. Give this girl a chance to explain why first. I certaintly do not reccomend walking off and breaking all contact on her. Thats a lousy thing to do.


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