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Lack of Empathy

  • 23-10-2010 2:04am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I can't help feeling that no one feels the way I do. Ok that doesn't make too much sense on its own so let me elaborate.

    I (irrationally) feel that no one can have any feelings for me. I have a girlfriend who I'm crazy about but I can't help but feel sometimes that she doesn't care about me; that I mean nothing to her; that she doesn't find me attractive; that if something were to happen tomorrow she wouldn't feel anything; that she isn't interested in me at all and that she's just waiting for someone better to come along.

    I know this is ridiculous. She hasn't done anything at all to indicate any of the above but I still think these thoughts. I haven't told her about this and I don't know if I should do so. I know that I care about her alot; that I find her incredibly attractive; that if something were to happen to her I'd be distraught, yet I can't bring myself to believing that she feels the same way. I've obviously done something right to get her to stick around this long. She obviously does like me if she's my girlfriend but something is stopping me from believing this 100%.

    Most of the time it doesn't bother me too much but there are times when I get really down thinking about it. It doesn't help that she's outrageously attractive either. This just makes me feel worse somehow. That she'll be asked out on a date by someone while she's not with me and she'll say yes and cheat on me. I have no reason to believe this or suspect it but again, I can't help but thinking it. I know this is doing more harm than good and that's why I've come here.

    I've made an appointment to see a counsellor in college about this. I think it's rooted to self-esteem issues I had related to bullying when I was in secondary school. It's funny, I never thought that the bullying was that bad but it really seems to have left a scar when it comes to self-worth. I don't want my problems to push her away and ruin what we have. If that happens I'll never forgive myself.


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    so nobody has any advice then? cheers


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