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stressed! any tips on how to relax?

  • 20-10-2010 9:23pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I have to make a decision and I'm so stressed out about it. Basically I take a job abroad or I stay with my boyfriend here and face probable unemployment. I'm so confused. I'm scared that I'll lose him, but I'm scared that if I don't go I'll end up with no work. I'm a graduate and I've been frantic looking for work in Ireland but no luck. I've tried everything. The thing is I'm worrying myself sick. He says "what will be will be", he's not even that worried...he says wait until the time comes (December!!). I feel like I'm 32 and have major life-altering decisions to make. The main thing is that I just stop worrying - I feel tired all day because I can't sleep trying to make up my mind...I keep getting ill because I'm not eating. I know it sounds crazy... How can I just relax, go, and accept that some relationships aren't meant to last? I love him, and he loves me but at the same time why isn't he worrying like I am? I'm starting to drink one or two drinks in the evening after work ( I work as a receptionist covering maternity with no chance of an extension and it's minimum wage). I feel like I need to look after myself, and my mental state, but I don't know how, I'm so wound up...Why do I have to make these choices? Its too hard...


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  • #2
    basecamp1
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    well he's not seeming to worry cos thats boys for you i think. they have an excellent ability not to worry about problems until they actually physically arrive (im generalising, i know, but thats my experience). i mean iv never come across a boy who ever lost sleep over something.
    i think he's probably dealing with it by avoiding it and putting it out of his mind.
    i understand how you are thinking though and i wouldnt be able to do that. are you going to move abroad indefinitely? would you like a long distance relationship? is there any chance he'd move with you? you need to answer all these questions and come up with a plan or decision in ur own mind and then discuss with him, or discuss the plan with him in a rational way.
    then it really depends how much you want to work?
    there is a little truth to what your boyfriend says, if you two are meant to be, you will be. and even if you move away for a while, if he is meant for you, you'll find a way back to each other. Airy-fairy, I know, but sometimes thats the only way to look at things.


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