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The aftermath

  • 14-10-2010 3:12pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hey guys,

    Just been through a pretty hard break up with a guy who was very nice, but did not want to settle down for at least 10 years, whereas I am 28 now, and whilst I'm not 100% ready myself, its something I would hope would happen in the next few years.

    So I'm getting over him, but am in the position of being single and looking for a new relationship, rather than just random one nighters etc. Anyone have any ideas how to go about this? I have looked at internet dating but find it quite scarey!! The whole club/gym thing is hard because I work shifts, in a female dominated field, which also rules out meeting anyone at work. Any men my age I know are either settled or players who dont want to settle like my ex lol

    I know everyone says it happens when you don't expect it etc- but there must be some tips out there!


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  • #2
    LighterGuy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,243 ✭✭✭LighterGuy


    Well first off op see all this "Not ready to settle down" - its bs. Everyone who has settled down has had an element of doubt. You said it best yourself "..and whilst I'm not 100% ready myself, its something I would hope would happen in the next few years...." :)

    So to hell with your ex. Just a cheap lame excuse he used. All the more reason to find that new relationship :)

    You seem to be stuck in the classic rut that alot of people fall into. But the old saying my dad said "... you can meet a girl walking down the street..." (:P which doesnt happen alot but it happens lol)

    So basically if you want to find the next guy its all about just putting yourself out there to meet new people. Easier said than done of course. But the more people you will meet the more chances you will have.

    Since you work in shifts work around that. I know its cliche answers but any clubs, courses... anything that gets you meeting new people is the key. And dont give up at the first attempt :)


    ps,
    Dont try online dating. Majority of guys are only looking for sex. Sadly the rest have baggage. Only a few gems on dating sites and they pretty much get snapped up.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Thanks, your right, some good words of advice there, guess I feel like the only single person in the world at the moment, but I know that's not true!!

    Most of my good friends are married or getting married at the moment, part of which I think scared him off, but I have plenty of songle friends too, your right I just need to get out there, scarey as it may seem!

    There seems to be alot of guys who use this as an excuse, I 'd have preferred him to be straight about it, or to not have asked me to moved in with him and planned a future together last year!


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