Girl i love gone to Oz...

LegacyUser

Hi all, longtime boards user here but going anon for this one..

Basically im heartbroken..I met a girl back in May through mutual friends and we really hit it off,only problem was she had met a fella a few months before this,so she has a boyfriend.
I guess i should have let her alone knowing this..
We started meeting up and going out together and ending up sleeping together.I developed serious feelings for her as she did about me,we even talked about it a lot.Problem is,now she's gone to Australia to her boyfriend and i'm absolutely heartbroken.I miss her so much.
I just cant get her out of my head.She said she needed to go to Oz as she still had feelings for her BF and wanted to see how things might work out with him (she had planned to go just before she met me).Even though she admitted to me that she has strong feelings for me.I think I'm in love with her,she has says she loved me too.Sad i know..

I've spent the last 2 weeks torn apart,I can hardly eat or sleep,I'm just constantly thinking about her.I miss her so much.I suffer from depression,which doesnt help things,and i'm really low at the moment.
Some may say to just move on and get her out of my head but i just cant.

Just hoping anyone on here can advise me..Thanks..

Ickle Magoo

Instead of pining after her, I think you have to wake up and smell the coffee and get angry.

She had a boyfriend, she had every intention of going to him and anything else she had in the meantime was just a stop-gap. She cheated on him with you to give her something to do and then buggered off to Oz to be with him and dropped you like a hot potato. Why would you even want someone who could do that?

She sounds like a right piece of work, stop being the heart-broken love-sick puppy and realise you've been used, played and unceremoniously dumped and move on, notch it up to experience & next time someone tells you they have a boyfriend already, don't pursue a relationship expecting to be or replace their significant other.

All the best.

Black Swan

what will i do wrote: »

Problem is,now she's gone to Australia to her boyfriend and i'm absolutely heartbroken... She said she needed to go to Oz as she still had feelings for her BF...

She made her choice, and it was a big one to move half-way around the world. Sad, but you need to move on.

LegacyUser

The thing is as things moved on with us,she was going to stay with me,break up with her BF and not go to Oz,she asked me what i thought and I said she should go as she was going travelling around too and wouldnt get the chance to do it again.I told her she should go,so i guess im kicking myself for giving her away..

LegacyUser

i guess i'm kicking myself for giving her away..

You didn't give her away, you never had her. BECAUSE SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND. who she cheated on

Wake up she used you, she never had any intention of staying, you were obviously just a bit of fun to pass the time until she had the chance to go back to the bf. Move on.

thefeatheredcat

Apart from this girl being horrible to both you and her boyfriend by the cheating and deceit, take comfort in this being a bullet dodged. You have seen her true colours as a cheater and a user and that is something you are very, very lucky to have found out before you invested more emotion and effort in her. Spare a thought for her boyfriend who she doesn't respect nor love. And if she had dumped the boyfriend, she would have done the exact same thing to you that she has done to him.

Not only was she using you but sounds like a head wrecker too with her indecision and drama.

You're well rid of bad news I'm afraid. If she's going travelling in Oz, guaranteed not only will she have cheated on her boyfriend with you, but she will cheat with other guys she meets on her travels too.

Comfort yourself in knowing that there are much nicer women out there who are genuinely interested in having a relationship and not playing stupid childish games.

Grieve the deceit, but move on without it tainting your perception of women generally. And when and if this girl comes back from her travels, don't have a thing to do with her (especially when she unburdens her guilty conscience or gets caught out by her boyfriend) as she will only be out to use you again.

LegacyUser

Thanks for the responses,especially featheredcat,i've seen the light now.I'm just upset now over her using me,I cant believe i fell for her.Although we're still talking,I guess i should just shun her altogether.Just pick up and move on i guess.Thanks guys and gals,I appreciate it.