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My house is getting really hard to live in

  • 07-10-2010 9:38pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I'm 17 and I'm in 5th year. I'm finding school a bit stressful but manageable, but my home life is making things near on impossible. My dad is in a really stressful job and I sympathize with that, but between him and my mum I can't say two words without getting given out to. I get really good marks in all my tests, I never (NEVER) go out and I rarely ask for money or anything.

    The problem is everything is an issue. I want to go babysitting and I get given out to, even if I have all my study done. I'm on the computer after I'm finished working its why are you on the computer. Everything I do is questioned and I feel like I'm always treated like I'm up to something. I get sent to bed at half ten, no joke, and if I contest this I'm being a selfish bitch. My schoolwork is never good enough, I can't give out about anything and because they reacted so badly to me coming out as gay I just feel like such a disappointment. :( What the hell do I do?


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
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    Hi Op, Awww thats a tough place to be, they seem to not be respecting you very much, when day to day life becomes the same and mundane the most vulnerable person in the house can get ignored. It seems so unfair for them to be smothering you at home and not letting you out, 5th year your supposed to be able to relax a bit and enjoy the time with friends and going out a bit more and having life experiences.

    Its hard to advise because how can you just pack your bags and leave? I remember living in a similar place when i was in 5th year my home was so dysfunctional and violent, i was numb going to school and my mother wouldnt let me out much either. I cant imagine you having to live with your parents after coming out, do you think they are keeping you in because they want to stop you socializing, you prob cant even go around to a mates gaff without them thinking there is something going on.... thing to do maybe is get some girl friends, maybe they will let you out!

    Just wanted to offer some support anyway and tell you that when i got out of my home, life got a whooooollllllleeee lot better! it is freedom, and as soon as you finish school you can go???


  • #3
    [Deleted User]
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    Do you know what might work ...write them a letter use what you said in you'r post but make it a bit more understanding tell them that your love them etc...then leave it for them when you are at school or baby siting and give then a chance to read it... when me and my daughter are having words we some time text out point of view to each other it works and stops either of us loosing our cool.... good luck


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