Need to stop scoring random guys on nights out

LegacyUser

Seriously, I keep scoring random guys when I'm drunk and regretting it a few minutes later. It's awful, I just sort of have these moments of lucidity during drunkenness where I'm like "wtf?" and realise I'm scoring some guy. It would seem like the obvious solution is to not drink on nights out but this never used to happen until a few weeks ago, so it's not as if it's a direct result of drinking. How can I just go on a normal night out and not end up scoring some random dude?

Miss Fluff

Seriously, I keep scoring random guys when I'm drunk and regretting it a few minutes later.

You need to stop getting drunk

this never used to happen until a few weeks ago, so it's not as if it's a direct result of drinking.

You said yourself it happens when you are drunk. Just cut down on your booze intake and if you can't handle it/it makes you behave inappropriately then knock it on the head for a while.

If going out for a night make sure to eat before going out/alternate each drink with water/stick to low-alcohol drinks and make sure you are with your mates so that they can keep an eye out for you.

Don't kid yourself that it has nothing to do with being drunk though......

G-Money

Don't drink as much and just stop doing it!

Logical Fallacy

RandomSlut wrote: »

Seriously, I keep scoring random guys when I'm drunk and regretting it a few minutes later. It's awful, I just sort of have these moments of lucidity during drunkenness where I'm like "wtf?" and realise I'm scoring some guy. It would seem like the obvious solution is to not drink on nights out but this never used to happen until a few weeks ago, so it's not as if it's a direct result of drinking. How can I just go on a normal night out and not end up scoring some random dude?

Drink less.

Not to be dismissive of your feelings but it really is that simple.

Blisterman

I don't think there is a problem here. If you're single and not hurting anyone, is there a problem? You obviously enjoy it at the time, or you wouldn't be doing it.
You're obviously conditioned to think 'girl who scores lots of guys'= Slut

Would be different if the sexes were reversed.

So I'd say try and change your attitude towards it. Look at it as a bit of harmless fun.

tinkerbell

It's quite obvious, stop getting so wasted when you go out.

zxcvbnm1

Blisterman wrote: »

I don't think there is a problem here. If you're single and not hurting anyone, is there a problem? You obviously enjoy it at the time, or you wouldn't be doing it.
You're obviously conditioned to think 'girl who scores lots of guys'= Slut

Would be different if the sexes were reversed.

So I'd say try and change your attitude towards it. Look at it as a bit of harmless fun.

Exactly. I don't see the problem here. What's wrong With scoring with guys?

Logical Fallacy

zxcvbnm1 wrote: »

Exactly. I don't see the problem here. What's wrong With scoring with guys?

Her OP indicates that when she is doing it, she is too drunk to even remember instigating it.

Not really a good thing i think.

Sanjuro

Like others have said, the problem isn't the scoring. It's the drinking.

kylith

Stop drinking so much that you don't know what you're doing, it really is that simple.

Tipsy is more fun than plastered anyway.

LegacyUser

Stop calling yourself a slut. I'm surprised to see a woman using that term to describe herself because it's a term usually used by men to keep women in their place.
Work on your self esteem

Three Sheets

RandomSlut wrote: »

Seriously, I keep scoring random guys when I'm drunk and regretting it a few minutes later. It's awful, I just sort of have these moments of lucidity during drunkenness where I'm like "wtf?" and realise I'm scoring some guy. It would seem like the obvious solution is to not drink on nights out but this never used to happen until a few weeks ago, so
it's not as if it's a direct result of drinking. How can I just go on a normal night out and not end up scoring some random dude?

If you can't regulate your drinking - or refuse to do so - you might consider masturbating just befoe you go out on the town. If that doesn't work try masturbating twice on the day. Somewhere along the line you'll lose the urge and you can get down to enjoying the evening without the other thing.

skregs

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Mike 1972

Blisterman wrote: »

You're obviously conditioned to think 'girl who scores lots of guys'= Slut

Would be different if the sexes were reversed.

So I'd say try and change your attitude towards it. Look at it as a bit of harmless fun.

To some extent I might agree but If someone is "scoring" with partners whom they wouldnt give the time of day to when in full possession of their critical faculties then I wouldnt be so quick to dismiss it as "harmless".

Princess Peach

I used to do this a lot! I thought because I was only kissing guys and not sleeping with them or even talking to them afterwards it was fine. But after a while it did make me feel slutty. Thing with me though is I was kissing them not because of drink but because I genuinely wanted to kiss them. I don't think drink is the issue here. Your still in control of yourself when your drunk. Just keep it in your mind that you dont want to get with these guys, and keep reminding yourself that when they start dancing up against you. Maybe tell some friends this plan and have them intervene if it does start to happen.

Think of what has happened in the last few weeks to make this become the norm. For me its when I'm feeling really down, and kissing guys makes me feel wanted or loved.

greengiant09

Giggidy!!!!!!!!!!!!

Bob_Harris

unregistered wrote: »

Stop calling yourself a slut. I'm surprised to see a woman using that term to describe herself because it's a term usually used by men to keep women in their place.
Work on your self esteem

Men call women sluts to "keep them in their place?".

I think a man might call a women a slut if infact indeed she is a slut. It part of our plan to help women create better standards for themselves, as some obviously cannot do it for themselves.

Emme

Bob_Harris wrote: »

Men call women sluts to "keep them in their place?".

I think a man might call a women a slut if infact indeed she is a slut. It part of our plan to help women create better standards for themselves, as some obviously cannot do it for themselves.

:rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes:

Kimia

Wow to the above - Emme I'm also having a WTF moment?

Anyway to the OP. I think some people may have been slightly dismissive of you. Imo, I think that the way you're acting shows a bit of low self-esteem actually. It would appear that you're searching for validation through sleeping/kissing these randomers and then hating yourself for it in the morning. I think lots of people go through phases like this when they're younger.

My advice is take it very easy on the drink for the moment. I don't think that's the sole cause of your behaviour but it's certainly a trigger so try and ease off. Then I would examine how you feel about yourself. Maybe your feelings of 'sluttiness' are because you feel you're worth more than a random kiss/shag and you know it, yet you don't fee you deserve it? Well you do. It's in your hands.

Hope this helps.

Sanjuro

Bob_Harris wrote: »

Men call women sluts to "keep them in their place?".

I think a man might call a women a slut if infact indeed she is a slut. It part of our plan to help women create better standards for themselves, as some obviously cannot do it for themselves.

Speak for yourself. And only yourself.

LegacyUser

Bob_Harris wrote: »

Men call women sluts to "keep them in their place?".

I think a man might call a women a slut if infact indeed she is a slut. It part of our plan to help women create better standards for themselves, as some obviously cannot do it for themselves.

I don't know what your question mark is for, because the rest of your post correlates with what I said in my previous post