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Falling apart

  • 30-09-2010 8:53pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi everyone

    I am in a complete downward spiral at the moment in my life and I really need some advice or just really a listening hear. I am a female in my mid 20's. Everything at the moment seems to be going wrong and I don't feel I can cope anymore. I am working towards professional exams which I keep failing, I hate my job and am on basically minimum wage for maximum stress...I can't even afford a night out, my boyfriend no longer shows me any affection and I am the one making all the effort with phone calls etc, so I think he is distancing himself to break up. All my friends seem to be happy and there life seems to fit together while mine is just falling apart. I feel so trapped and I just don't know what to do. :(


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  • #2
    surdah
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 28 ✭surdah


    Believe me your life is not as bad as it seems and your friends are not all as happy as they seem. Do not judge your life based on how other peoples lives appear to be as most of us make a big effort trying to make our life seem better than it actually is. And things may seem bad now and maybe there is a change coming with your boyfriend or your job but you have to just embrace that change and realise that if things are not working out in these areas of your life then change, while it may seem awful now, is the best thing.

    I have been through a few awful times in my life where I had to leave a job that was awful and a relationship that was not working and they were the hardest things I ever had to go through but now that I am on the other side of that I am a much happier and stronger person, sometimes we fear the things which will actually improve our lives.


  • #3
    Ickle Magoo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,485 ✭✭✭✭Ickle Magoo


    Hey OP,

    Several things jump out at me that you can be doing...Get a decent CV together and start sending it out. Make a good study plan and stick to it. Have a word with MABS about money managing and budgeting to see what your options are. Ask your boyfriend what's going on and ask for his honesty.

    You have choices and options, there's no point in being miserable and not doing anything to change or your own apathy will frustrate you - just doing something active to change your current situation will help you to feel a bit better and more in control.

    Best of luck


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